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  Elshack Posted: Thursday, October 27, 2022 11:22 PM

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DH has been in Memory Care for 2 months. In the past 3 mo he has been taken 4 times via EMS to the hospital to the ER and admitted to the hospital 2 times. ( broken ankle, falling out of bed, falling in the bathroom and the other day for Covid ) He was diagnosed with Covid on Monday and the hospital kept him over night as they said he has pneumonia due to Covid and low potassium. Oddly enough they released him back to Memory Care after just 1 night in the hospital. 

I took a Covid test today and was negative. I had Covid 5 weeks ago so was relieved I guess I have some immunity. I have posted many times before. DH is 92 1/2 and I will soon be 83. On Monday I will go to the funeral home to make arrangements as I want to do this while I still can make these decisions without being totally overwhelmed. DH had been doing so well and eating well etc but there were other residents that had Covid as did some of the help. He does have a bad cough but all the hospital RX'd was potassium and Tylenol. 

DH was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 6 yrs ago but the diagnosis became moderate after his brain surgery 4 + yrs ago. I know if I kept him with me I would end up being hospitalized as he developed serious incontinency ( diarrhea ) problems due to Crohn's disease and now urinary problems no doubt due to his dementia. I can't imagine his dying and never seeing him again but I also don't want him to live many more months/ years. I took care of him up until a couple of months ago and see him everyday in memory care and I also do his wash. 

For those on the fence thinking they can continue to take care of their loved one 24/ 7, be sure you realize it will take a toll on your health. I knew after he broke his ankle and also with his bathroom problems that I could no longer take care of him. Thus the move to memory care. 

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