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Well that went well - NOT

I had plans to go away for 2 days and my sister refused to cover for me.  Who else did she think could do it? Both my brothers work full time, 1 is an OTR trucker driver.  I blew up at her and told her to not bother coming back here anymore since she can't commit to helping.

One of my brothers is the financial POA, my sister is the DPOA for everything else AND the executor. I told my brothers she needs to be removed. I can't do anything as I am here all the time & I cannot financially help. I can only hope they will take care of this as our mother is visibly declining every day.

Please know that I have read many posts here and my thoughts & prayers are with all of you. 

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  • SusanB-dil
    SusanB-dil Member Posts: 1,216
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    So sorry sis didn't help you get away for a bit. Doesn't sound like that went very well at all.

    thank you for thoughts and prayers - we all need that.  

  • DawnOfANewDay
    DawnOfANewDay Member Posts: 56
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    I'm so sorry.  I can't imagine how angry you must feel.

    Does your LO have any money that could be used for a care provider for the week-end?

  • Anonymousjpl123
    Anonymousjpl123 Member Posts: 709
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    I’m so sorry. My family is relatively new into this (approx 1 year) and it’s amazing we haven’t all stopped speaking entirely as we were never the most functional to begin with. This is brutal and from what I’m reading on here, it doesn’t necessarily get easier. What I will say is that I felt your first post and hope things get better for you soon.
  • mimi262015
    mimi262015 Member Posts: 4
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    Kay 82,

    My goodness you are carrying so much on your shoulders. I hope you're able to come to some kind of agreement that works for everyone. 

    My two brothers and I live close to our mom who has developed dementia and we all pitch into to help her so no one person is burdened with her daily care. It's very difficult for me as my husband has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. The problem is that our sister lives 8 hours away and avoids helping at all because she thinks our mom should have chosen to go into assisted living 10 years ago. This disease is horribly hard on families. I feel so resentful of her blissful ignorance.

    I'm sending positive vibes your way. 

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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