Hidden blessings

Anonymousjpl123

I’m trying to find hidden caregiver blessings. I am in the process of moving my mom to live in a mixed community specializing in aa/memory care closer to me and miraculously it is going ok (move is next week). Yes the past year has been brutal. I know there will be tough times ahead. But I am finding these little blessings along the way. One is that my empathy and love towards a woman who was never really able to care of me has grown exponentially. It has actually forced my family to talk more. And I find myself looking forward to taking her to see Xmas stuff. Maybe it’s weird but I have to find the good in the bad.

toolbeltexpert

Anonymousjpl123 I love your attitude, finding the laughter amid sorrow is hard but it is rewarding. I am not as good as I should be.  So I hope you post every little win, the humorous,crazy stuff. We all need to laugh!

And welcome to the forum

Stewart

Mint

Hi Anonymousjp123 and welcome

I look for blessings along the way too.  There are many challenges but glad for the blessings I find between them.

D Mac

Hidden Blessings, what a great perspective. My DH was diagnosed with Dem & Alz a few years ago. I am transitioning from working outside the home to being his full-time caregiver. I will remind myself of the "hidden blessings" along the way. I am changing as a person because of his disease, meaning, I am more patient and kinder in my responses knowing this isn't something he chose to have.

Appy

It seems there are always 'hidden blessings' if we look for them. They may be small but a blessing is a blessing! My Mama (96) is slipping away a bit every day so when a blessing comes up I have been writing them down in my journal. Recently I gave her a kiss on the cheek and told her that I loved her so much and she is my sweet Mama. She looked at me with such love and said, "And you are my sweet girl...I knew that the first time I held you and you looked at me with your beautiful eyes." Precious. Hold onto the hidden blessings folks! In the end they are big! God bless!

Anonymousjpl123

Thank you all for adding to this! It is so true. We have to find the joy and miracles and tiny wins in them. I am finding it so hard with a parent, I literally cannot imagine how hard it would be caring for a partner facing this. It requires a patience, grace, and acceptance I can’t fathom. But I also can. This whole process is just reminding me of everyone’s humanity.

Wilted Daughter

Finding the good in the bad is known as "silver lining". I believe it's essential for proper development and change. All change is not wanted, but may be necessary. 

It's good for you to look forward to positive things that the change can bring. Work towards the betterment of the situation and may you and your family (especially mom) be a peace with how things play out. Thanksgiving (one day celebration) is coming, but should be recognized daily.