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Legal Docs Completed

Anna2022
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Thanks to all who suggested that I see an elder care lawyer and get our wills updated and POAs in place. We/I got it all done this week! I feel relieved. Thank you for your suggestions and kindnesses.

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  • Ed1937
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    Glad you got it done, Anna. We got ours done early on too.
  • M1
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    That's great, the day will come when you'll be very glad those documents are safely tucked away.  One suggestion (I learned this the hard way):  put the originals somewhere where your spouse doesn't have access to them.  My partner completely undid a former will when she (as dementia was setting in) made handwritten changes to her will without ever signing or dating.  When she redid her will after her sister died (barely got it signed before she took a nosedive), I put copies for her in her desk but put the originals locked away.
  • Pat6177
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    I know that was a weight off my shoulders when we got ours done. A suggestion I got from this forum was to have an electronic copy of the medical POA on your phone. I have it in my email so I can access it from any computer I have access to. Really organized people have a paper copy (along with other documents) in their car. I’m not that organized yet.
  • Anna2022
    Anna2022 Member Posts: 190
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    Thanks again! Good ideas to have the original somewhere different than the copies (Thanks M1) and to have an electronic copy on my phone and a paper copy in the car (Thanks, Pat6177)!! You all are the best.
  • Crushed
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    One document  that is often forgotten is a HIPPA authorization
    nice online form  from NY but the law is the same everywhere

     

    https://www.nycourts.gov/forms/Hipaa_fillable.pdf

  • Crushed
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    One document  that is often forgotten is a HIPPA authorization
    nice online form  from NY but the law is the same everywhere

     

    https://www.nycourts.gov/forms/Hipaa_fillable.pdf

  • toolbeltexpert
    toolbeltexpert Member Posts: 1,583
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    I got my dw several years ago after reading about a dpoa here. It contains the hippa clause as well. A most useful document. Fortunately I don't need to go for Guardianship.
  • Anna2022
    Anna2022 Member Posts: 190
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    Crushed - Our docs included the HIPAA docs, so I am grateful. Good catch!!

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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