Do They Ever Adjust to a Caregiver

trm

I had to start over with a new Caregiver Agency.  The prior Agency didn't have enough staff and could not find anyone when my current Caregiver quit.  My spouse has ALWAYS hated having a Caregiver (we started about four months ago) but became a little more mellow with it.  The owner of the new Agency came over yesterday.  We are back to her being very angry and saying she does NOT want anyone here.  My question.  Does this resistance and anger ever go away?  It is exhausting, and I feel depleted in this ongoing battle.  I have tried things like telling her it is a friend, I need help, the person needs the job, etc., etc.  I am so tired of the daily battle.  I am so tired of the anger.  I don't understand 90% of what she talks about.  What a horrible disease.

Paris20

trm, I’d say that based on my experience the answer is no. When my husband was still at home (he had to be moved to a nursing home after a paralyzing stroke) I needed help caring for him. My daughters found a wonderful aide, very experienced and knowledgeable. She had worked for many clients with dementia. She told me my husband was the worst patient she’d ever had. He cursed her, insulted her, and even threw her down the steps when she tried to assist him. The only thing that helps moderate the symptoms has been Seroquel.

Now that he is no longer living at home, DH hasn’t changed much. When the aides at his facility try to get him out of bed each morning, he fights them. Just this week he kicked out night-shift caregivers who had come to change his diaper. He woke the next morning drenched to the neck, and worse. When  I learned what happened I told the director to go ahead and tell the aides to change him. It is a health issue, for which they are responsible. He cannot hurt anyone anymore and he usually gives in eventually anyway. He tells me he likes giving caregivers a hard time. He cannot remember that he’s been doing this for years.

JJAz

Yes, with time and work by me to treat her like a friend.

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Joe C.

DW never wanted anyone in our home when I first suggested it, but after a short time she bonded with her & she became a friend. There was a period of time that the first thing she would ask in the morning was if her friend was coming today.

Belldream

"I don't understand 90% of what she talks about.  What a horrible disease."

Oh my, I burst out laughing to myself reading that statement. Certainly not because it's funny. But thank you for saying that "out loud"! I don't understand 90% of what my husband is saying either, and he gets so mad at me. He thinks I am not listening or I don't care. I am trying so hard to listen but it's just jibberish! This is such a horrible disease for sure.

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