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DH passed away early this morning.  We were told 2-4 days last Tuesday, but he fought it until this morning.  Each of the kids got a chance to say goodbye and most of us were with him when he passed.  He squeezed my hand hours before.  And the last words he said to me a week ago was "I love you".  

I'm numb.  I've missed him for quite a while, but this is permanent.  

Thank you all for your support advice and listening.  

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  • M1
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    Oh caberr, here it is.  His suffering is over.  Peace to you, you did absolutely everything you could.
  • ghphotog
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    So sorry for your loss.
  • Twin Mom
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    I am sorry for your loss.  I hope you are able to find some peace as you begin your new journey.
  • Vitruvius
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    My sincere condolences on your loss.
  • Janco
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    So sorry for your loss.  Please be at peace.
  • Beachfan
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    I am so very sorry.  I wish you peace, strength and fortitude going forward.  You are so fortunate to have family support at this time.  Bless you all.
  • Last Dance
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     And the last words he said to me a week ago was "I love you".

    Caberr, How fortunate you were to have him say those last words to you, that is something that you'll be able to hold in your heart and in your mind forever. He knew that you did what was best for him, and took good care of him, how sad it is that the only cure for Alzheimer's is death. He is forever out of pain and suffering. I pray that you can take care of yourself I'm happy you have family to be with you they truly do help a lot.                                                        God's blessings to you and your family as you start a new journey in life without the one that you loved, Richard

  • Ed1937
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    Caberr, I'm so sorry. Those beautiful words coming out of his mouth is something you will never forget. He is at peace. Now you have to claw your way back into a new life. I hope you can get there by remembering the good times, and forget this monster disease. It's been very hard for you, and it will still be, only in a different way. Again, I'm sorry.
  • Dio
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    So sorry for your loss... may your fond and loving memories console and keep you strong through this difficult time. Be comforted in knowing that the suffering has ended for both of you. Hugs.
  • 60 falcon
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    I'm sorry Caberr.
  • Mint
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    Caberr I’m so sorry for your loss of your dear husband.
  • A. Marie
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    Caberr, I'm so sorry. But his suffering is over. And thank goodness he was able to give you one last message of love before he went. Peace be unto you.
  • Paris20
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    Caberr,

    I’m truly sorry for your loss and all you’ve gone through.
  • JoseyWales
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    (((Caberr))  I'm so sorry. But what beautiful last words you have to hang on to.
  • PookieBlue
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    Caberr, 

    I am so sorry for your loss. 

    May there always be angels to watch over you.

    Valerie

  • saltom
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    Cabers, My deepest sympathy for you. I hope the good memories make this time easier for you.
  • toolbeltexpert
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    Caberr I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers
  • MaryG123
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    I’m so sorry for your loss Caberr.  I hope your fond memories return before too long.
  • Buggsroo
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    Caberr, I am so sorry, I am glad he told you he loved you.
  • DJnAZ
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. His final words will be with you forever.
  • Jeff86
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    Heartfelt condolences to you, caberr, on your DH’s passing.  His suffering is over, and I hope your healing can begin soon.  You have been an exemplary caregiver, and now it is time for you to care for yourself.
  • ImMaggieMae
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    Caberr, I am so so sorry. He is finally at peace and left you with his love. That never disappears.
  • Cherjer
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    I am so sorry to hear this sad news and as you said it is permanent. As much as we want their suffering over, the loss is never over. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers.
  • Scooterr
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    Caberr I'm so sorry for your loss, my deepest sympathy. Those last words spoken was amazing and wonderful. I hope you find peace.
  • Lorita
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    Please accept my sincere condolences and strength to you as you begin another stage of your life.  He is at peace.
  • White Crane
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    I am so sorry, Caber.  Praying for your comfort and peace.
  • Lynne D
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    Caberr, I am so sorry for your loss, and am wishing you strength in the time ahead.
  • Marie58
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. What a blessing to hear those words from DH. Words you can cherish forever. May the Lord bless you and your family as you move forward.
  • ladyzetta
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    Dear Caberr.

    Iam so sorry for your loss, please take care of yourself and get some rest. Hugs Zetta 

  • Joydean
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    Caberr, sending my condolences for the loss of your loved one.  May God give you peace of mind and strength for the coming days. Prayers for you and your family.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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