Had to send her to hospital

mommyandme (m&m)

I couldn’t manage her comfort, her O2 was down in the 50s. No one would help me. I can’t go with her because i’m still positive for covid. This isn’t what I wanted but hopefully she’ll get comfortable and can come back home at least. she’ll probably even rally. Trying to stay positive but feeling a bit defeated. if this is the end I know I gave her 2.5 years of ok to good life here. I think she knows I love her.  I hope so. Tears are just flowing. Thanks for listening.

Olly_Bake

MommyandMe, you did what you thought was best for your mother and your peace of mind in knowing that you are doing everything possible for her comfort and care. She does Love you no question in my mind. I am sorry and hurt to hear you had no one to help you. From one of your previous post, you all no longer have hospice. Maybe by sending her to the hospital, I hope you will be able to get a hospice company back on board with current knowledge about her overall health. Talk to a discharge planner right way before they speak of discharge. We all question ourselves (it is maddening). I can’t tell you how many tears I've shed with dad being away from me (nursing homes that didn't work out), how many tears I’ve shed with him being at his home, and how many times I've cried when he had to go to the hospital, etc. I’ve been where you are so many times this year in wondering if this were the end. Try to remember your words, "I gave her 2.5 years of ok to good life" because we can't stop those tears. That is not defeat!

Get well soon you and mom!

SusanB-dil

Oh, my m&m...  I so much agree with OllyBake.  You are doing everything and then some to keep her safe and comfortable.  ((hugs))

jfkoc

So, so sorry. Hugs sent. Please update and please know we are with you!

ninalu

m&m, 
we in this house are thinking of you and your mom.
please read Olly_Bake's post multiple times - so much wisdom there.
meanwhile, we'll be sending good wishes your way 24/7. {{{}}}

mommyandme (m&m)

Thank you so much for sharing your life’s struggles with me and your kind kind words.

My husband is an amazing person and is sitting with mom at the ER. He’s been incredible even though i’ve not slept in our marital home for 2.5 years. He’s a caregiver too. So understanding to me and this situation. Thankfully our home is directly behind my moms so we’re around each other but it’s not much of a marriage.  We’ll celebrate 35 years this year, God willing. 

I can’t do this without all of you. Thank you! 

Joydean

M&M, so very sorry! Prayers for you and your Mom!  You need to get some rest and take care of yourself so when your mom comes back home you will be rested up!  We are going to be thinking positive!  Get that rest and be well from the nasty Covid! Hugs for you!  Sounds like you have a very special husband that sure does love you!

M1

Thinking of you all. We can't always cure but we can always comfort. Take care of yourself too, we don't want you both in the hospital.

BassetHoundAnn

Oh M&M! I'm so very sorry! You've been taking such great care of your mom. You've been an inspiration. You did the very right thing sending her to the hospital. These respiratory illnesses are such a challenge for our loved ones with Alzheimer's and other forms of dementia. But my money is on her rallying and coming home. Please be good to yourself, get lots of rest and fluids. You're a great caregiver. Hugs!

mommyandme (m&m)

Thank you all!  She is home since about 8 pm but not rallying so far. Hospice is back so at least now I can get the medical support 24/7 I need to keep her comfortable. Not sure if she’ll pull thru this one. At least she’s here with her sweet kitty cat and I can be with her too. “ Minute by minute by minute” the Doobies just entered my head.  Even if most of the lyrics don’t match, those do.

I am getting better, the secondary bacterial bronchitis from covid is responding alarmingly well to the antibiotics… good timing i’d say.  Wish I didn’t pass this pandemic chit to her, unknowingly but still. 

Boy, this rollercoaster is so exhausting and sad and hard. I hope you all feel some sort of peace for the moment. My heart breaks for all of us.

​fesk

m&m, I am glad she is home with you and hospice is on board. I am hoping she is comfortable and you are feeling better soon. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

jfkoc

Please put the Hospice care to good use for your benefit too.

MN Chickadee

I'm glad she is back home with you and so nice to hear you are starting to feel better and respond to treatment. I lost my mother to covid and I get how awful it is. You're doing a great job for your mother and you are your husband are so good to care for her this long.  Take it one day at a time and cherish these days with her. I would give anything for one more day with my mom, even in her covid and dementia laden condition.

Joydean

So happy to hear your mom is back home and thank goodness hospice’s is back. Glad you are feeling a little better but you still need to take care of yourself.  God does answer prayers! 

Ed1937

M&m, I'm so sorry that she had to go without you, but glad you're doing a little better. You have done an excellent job, there's no question about that. I'm sending prayers your way.

May flowers

I’m glad your mom is home, and you are feeling better. I’m also glad you have the extra support again. Prayers for you all.