I'm hoping for some advice

MitchJ

I just got off the phone with my mom.  While she has been very good at making sure that he gets to the bathroom when he has to urinate, at night, and occasionally when she is in the bathroom herself, he will pull down his diaper and pee wherever he happens to be. In the corner of the bedroom, outside an occupied restroom at a restaurant, even in bed.  He will not pee in his diaper.

He cannot be the only person on earth that is doing this, and I want to help my mom find a solution, but I have no idea where to turn, who to ask, etc.

Can anyone point me in a good direction?

Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.

terei

There are one piece clothes (overall type) with zippers or buttons down the back that cannot be removed by the wearer.

They are suggested since the LO must have assistance when toileting

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jfkoc

Now is the time to put  waterproof (all 6 sides) protection on the bed mattress. Also time to stop leaving the house and I know that is going to be very hard.

Then keep a complete change of clothes in the car along with clean up stuff for when you must go out.

Your mother might set an alarm to get your father to the bathroom every two hours and do have her limit fluid intake in the evening.

LaurenB

Is it possible that he still retains the ability to know that you are t supposed to urinate I. Your clothes, but can’t locate an appropriate “toilet”?  Consider taking him to the bathroom on a schedule (every two hours) during the day.

Martin Robbins

The performance of the underwear/diaper may be an issue.  Perhaps the product is not sufficiently absorbent.  I notice people mentioning Depends.  I used DryDirect and Prevail products for my mother, both of which I purchased on Amazon.

NOTE: I had no problem w/ my mother urinating in the diaper.  They are very absorbent.  (The pull-on style worked best for me, but the nurses liked the ones with tabs.)  However, once in the bathroom - even at the toilet prior to sitting - urination would start.  She seemed to think as long as the diaper was down or off, it was okay to go.  I would say, somewhat loudly, "No, no!"  But she only looked at me as though she did not know what else to do.  After being surprised at first, I would tell her, "It's alright, honey.  Don't worry.  It's okay.  I'll take care of it."

(A hug and a kiss went a long way to calming things.)

There was never urinating anywhere else.  There was defecating, though.  I think because this definitely made her uncomfortable.  She would just pull down the diaper and go wherever in the house she happened to be.  I never scolded her, but just reassured her that I would take care of everything.

I agree w/ Lauren, that checking every two hours is a good idea.

I miss my mother terribly,  She passed end of September.  But, I'm resigned to knwoing I always will.