Feeling bad when I yell

12 Step Hope

The last month I’m worried about my outbursts.  I yell at my DH over something he’s done.  it seems to come from no where but really, I’m probably already tired.  I got upset when he put too much wood on the fire, or let in the muddy dogs inside when we are expecting company.  How bad is this for him?  It’s hurtful, and he acts like he forgets about it—he’s THAT sweet.  ***LoL*** I’ve never taken tranquilizers—do I need one?  Already I exercise , pray and have quiet time because he sleeps till 11.  I don’t feel the need for respite care but on the other hand, he’s the one who needs a break from me  He doesn’t have anyone to share his feelings with when this happens.

Ed1937

12 step, I'm sorry it's so hard. There are videos available on youtube to help with this. I need to leave shortly, but I'll look to see if I have anything bookmarked that will be helpful.

Ed1937

This is not a video, but should be helpful. https://www.alzconnected.org/uploadedFiles/understanding-the-dementia-experience.pdf  

Ed1937

Here is a link to a lot of "Careblazers videos". Look for any that seem relevant. https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=careblazers  

JC5

Very interred and informative videos. tks

MaryG123

It’s hard and we get frustrated.  I do a lot of apologizing.  Forgive yourself and try again 12 step hope.  You’ll get more patient with practice.

Davegrant

12 step Hope:

 My experience is that I need to have respite. I have a person (DIL) come in 4 hours a week and I go somewhere. It could be the library,  fast food parking lot , or a local group meeting or grocery shopping. I can tell you that it make a big difference for me and my ability to deal with my frustrations. I take this time just like a person takes their medicine.  My DW doesn't like it and wants to go with me but I go alone anyway. Usually after I am gone my wife calms down. Suspicion is one of DW personality changes and when I get home she ask me many questions, where did I go? Who did I see? but after a few minutes she will forget about it. Shadowing is another characteristic of the disease so I have nowhere to go in the house. 

Dave  

12 Step Hope

thank you!

Jarmac

I just finished yelling and it felt good. At some point, my feelings matter, too.

Jarmac

I just finished yelling and it felt good. My feelings matter, too.