What a day....

Kay82

My sister stopped by today. I am thoroughly irritated though.  She didn't let me know so that right there told me she didn't come with any intention of giving me a break.  She stayed for 3 hours.

The good news  - I have an appointment with an attorney to discuss taking my sister to court for embezzlement and other actions that have caused harm to my mother's estate. My brother, who is now financial POA, hopes that our mother won't need to go to a facility as she no longer would be able to afford that. 

This new turn of events was what kept me for chewing out my sister for her selfish act this afternoon. 

pygmyporcupine

I'm sorry to hear that your family is divided over the situation. Does your mother have an opinion in the matter?

Kay82

My mother doesn't know what is going on, she isn't even day/date aware.   Her doctor made the determination this past summer that she can't be alone or make her own financial decisions.

Quilting brings calm

With the issues you have with your sister, it might not have been a good idea to leave her alone with your mom anyway.  I’m sorry this is happening

pygmyporcupine

Definitely speak with your attorney in regards to your sister's meddling. You may not be able to stop her from seeing your mother, but at least legally speaking she shouldn't be able to change anything that was decided by your mother when she was of sound mind. Do what it takes for your lawyer to make a sound case. Good luck!

Kay82

No I do not trust my sister anymore. I feel she is 1) in denial of our mother's decline in health and 2) just waiting for all to be done & over with so she can get her slice of the pie.

I am continually adjusting my perspective of my mother's situation in relation to my sister & the rest of the family. I feel I have come to a place of not wanting to leave her. I want to be here holding her hand til the end.

GothicGremlin

What a day, indeed. I'm sorry this is happening to you.

What is it with our siblings?  My brother is much like your sister - being as unhelpful as possible, and waiting for whatever money my sister has left.

CanyonGal

It seems like when a parent needs assistance or placement into a facility, its sibling war! 

Sibling alienation begins during the time mom or dad begins to decline all the way until the estate is settled or battle lines are settled in court.

Crisis brings out the worst in some folks. I also suspect the denial of the fact mom has dementia means siblings don't have to pitch in and help out.