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When am I getting out of here? What do you say?

My LO  is in MC. But where ever she is, she  constantly says, "I can't wait to get out of here." "I am a prisoner." "Where am I going next?" What do you all say to your LOs in these circumstances?

She is in a new place near me. But she said the same thing at the before.  I need a response that won't upset her and will let her feel heard.

I understand trying to convince her is both pointless and upsetting to her but I don't know what to say. Any ideas are welcome.

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  • jfkoc
    jfkoc Member Posts: 3,946
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    Anything that she will accept...electricity off, gas leak, painters, floor being redone. broken water main, roof repair.........
  • prov1kenobi
    prov1kenobi Member Posts: 47
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    My LO lives in a very nice log house he built 50 years ago. My wife and I loved into his basement 4 months ago in order to take care of him. He has a quickly developing case of alzheimers. Back towards the beginning of october, he starting asking if this is his house. He asks this question several times daily. On top of all of this, he keeps telling me that he wants to move back into his old house, which has the same address as the house we are living in. I keep telling him…”This IS YOUR HOUSE”. But, he doesn’t get it. 

    These types of statements/questions are unanswerable. It is very hard to change that direction of his conversation. Sometimes we take him for rides. But then we have to bring him back from where we started. This keeps his mind quiet for a while, but then he starts all over again. 

    it is a reall battle

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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