Being oblivious to other people

Iris L.

Many of you post about your LO being oblivious to how much work you do or how much toll is taken on you.  It is not only PWDS who are oblivious.  My 91 yo frail neighbor, who does not have dementia, is also oblivious.   Yesterday I got called twice by her Life Alert company to help them gain entry,  because she had fallen twice.  I had to rush home from my errands twice because I thought is was an emergency.  It wasn't.  The Life Alert was able to gain entry without me.  Today, I told her I had been interrupted twice while doing my errands.  She said, "why did they call you?  I was okay!"  So it was not a big deal to her.  I told her from now on, I will continue with my errands and not rush back home.  She just shrugged.

Those of you dealing with PWDs, they have anosognosia and do not know what they're saying.  My neighbor knows exactly what she is saying.  I have to take care of myself,  because I was stressed out yesterday from driving fast in traffic to get back home.  I won't put myself through that again.

Iris

ladyzetta

Iris.   Please don't put yourself through that again. You're a good person you need to take care of yourself only. Why can't the management let them in? You need to stay in your own little bubble as you call it and be safe. Maybe she needs to find someone else for Life Alert to call. Hugs Zetta

Jgirl57

Iris, I love your words of wisdom. Praying for a restful 

day for you.

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Paris20

My aunt, my 100 year old mother’s older sister, did this to her poor daughter. My cousin lived about 90 minutes from her mother. She was called constantly for insignificant reasons. I think my aunt was bored and lonely and knew her daughter would come running. Her son lives 3000 miles away. She didn’t seem to understand or accept the fact that her daughter had her own children, her own full time job, and a husband who was very tolerant of his mother-in-law’s whims. My aunt refused to leave her home with two floors. She fell constantly, breaking bones on a few occasions. My aunt, who did not have dementia, is gone now. She was quite a lady, but in her last years she created a very rough time for her daughter.