Dad wants to buy a home

JDG236

My father is in stage 5 or 6 of Alz.  He was living in Florida with a girlfriend, but she was having trouble caring for him.  He came back to our home town and is living with an old girlfriend.  She refuses to help make decisions around his Alz, and he's becoming more angry, high anxiety and suspicious that I'm stealing his money (I'm his POA and paying his bills).  He desperately wants to live in Florida, fly home when he feels like it and live his life like he used to.  He recently booked a flight and flew to Florida, but he didn't have anywhere to live or anyone to help him.  I ended up booking him a flight home that evening and arranging a cab back to the airport. 

He's now planning on flying to Florida to buy a condo and continue his life.  Dad has trouble speaking, he gets lost and wanders, and his short term memory is getting much worse.  He's 76 and very physically healthy and energetic, so it's difficult to take care of him - since the ex girlfriend is enabling him in all areas.  When I try to make recommendations and help him plan, he becomes extremely agitated and angry.  He showed up at my house looking to fight me when I took his car.  

I expect that we'll be doing this dance for quite a long time, with no light at the end of the tunnel.  No matter what I do, he'll be angry, but I'd like to protect him from getting hurt, being taken advantage of when/if he travels and I'd like to protect his assets so he can afford care in the future.  I've thought about a conservatorship, but it seems like a long shot at this point.  

Any thoughts would be helpful.

Jeff

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