There but “not quite there” phase???

JC5

Ok so I’m kind of thinking that DH is cognitively in between being aware where I feel I can have a logical conversation with him and then feeling he is not “there at times” where I feel he’s not totally understanding our conversations! So what or how do you handle this? He is “ there” sometimes and totally not at other times? What to do as I don’t want to stress him?

dayn2nite2

I think you should just have reactive conversation with him only, and always be under the assumption that he probably is not there most of the time.

If he's speaking and seems logical, go with that.  Same if he's not.

Under no circumstances should you bring big decisions, choices or issues to him.  You are the decisionmaker for all things, so your conversation with him should only be superficial or about topics he brings up as long as they aren't serious "decision" type topics.  If he is bringing that kind of a topic up, deflect to a different subject.  If he suddenly announces he wants to be cremated and you both had planned burial, even if he seems "logical" I would respond with okay and then do what you planned originally anyway.