The sky is green!

salguod

Hello all,

I haven't written here in while. Mom has Alzheimer's; stage 1 probably going into 2.

Lately, Mom is convinced that the reason her townhouse needs repair is b/c she has been gone for so long. Traveling back and forth from her townhouse in Virginia Beach to her other townhouse in Florida. Mom has never owned/rented another property in Florida; and has been living in her townhouse since '75. She also states that she almost lost the townhouse after my father passed in '04. With both of these notions I have tried to gently assure her that she did not own another property and that she was never in danger of losing her townhouse.

Hind-sight being 20/20; I believe I should have gone along with what Mom was saying. Then change the subject to something less stressful, or quell her angst with assuring her that everything is fine..."mood over memory"!

Back in September of last year, Mom was convinced that my older brother's wife of 45 years had passed away, and if she was going to meet his new wife? Mom also thought my brother, (her oldest son) was her nephew?
In addition (lately) Mom has been feeling vibrations under her feet while in her townhouse. And is convinced it is happening. When we stand there, we don't feel a thing? Has anyone had a similar experience with their LO?

From what I have read and researched, the mind of a person with Alzheimer's will gradually start losing time of the past in decades to where eventually they will believe they are younger (20 or 30 for example) and are looking for those LOs that were alive then.

I guess my point is that my wife and I (as care-givers) need to try and enter Mom's world; and that, in her eyes, sometimes the sky is green.

Thank you for listening!   

prov1kenobi

My wife and I have been dealing with my brother’s dementia. Here is a paper that is a MUST

read. Everybody should read it. It will help you understand what is going on. I have read it 

several times. I always learn something new.

 https://www.alzconnected.org/uploadedFiles/understanding-the-dementia-experience.pdf

salguod

Thank you prov1kenobi; my wife and I will read it together! I read a bit of it, and looks really informative. Very much appreciated.

M1

Hi Sal. Not sure where you're getting your staging information, you might Google Tam Cummings stages of dementia for good descriptions. But yes, it does generally help to go along and not argue or correct, it serves no purpose and make your loved one defensive and upset.

sunnydove

My mom tells SO many crazy stories! She used to live in the city in an apartment (she NEVER ever lived alone in an apartment in her life), people from the city came to consult with her about low flying aircraft interfering with the trees, she has a son who works for border control and she would drive up to the border to see him, she had to spend the night in a barn sleeping with the animals, etc, etc. Many of these she has told over and over. It's so bizarre to me that she can remember something that never happened over and over and not that I'm her daughter. I have learned it's best to just go along with it and even ask her questions about these "experiences" since it keeps her engaged and she is so pleased when I show interest and she can share something with me. 

This is such a crazy disease. I will never understand it. But I will do my best to make sure Mom always feels safe, happy and heard. 

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Mint

Kalvin2838post reported

Ed1937

"I have learned it's best to just go along with it and even ask her questions about these "experiences" since it keeps her engaged and she is so pleased when I show interest and she can share something with me. 

This is such a crazy disease. I will never understand it. But I will do my best to make sure Mom always feels safe, happy and heard. "

That is absolutely perfect!!

zauberflote

Salguod, I thought from your title I'd be telling you that blue-green colorblindness is far mor common, and less often diagnosed, than we imagine! Mom finally learned she had it in her late 80's, which explained a whole lot of stuff that we'd all found funny all our lives lol. We wen driving once, less than a year before she died, and in our little park loop (she didn't remember for three minutes....) and she kept pointing out a purple tree trunk. I saw it brown, but I figured she really saw the REAL color instead of my expectation that J would see brown because I "know" tree trunks are brown...

Re the vibrations underfoot-- that is odd because I thought I was the only one! I feel it from time to time just standing there, and sometimes when in bed. I live about 100 miles upstream from your mom, and I've sometimes wondered if I'm feeling the tiny tiny earthquakes that they tell us are actually pretty frequent. I do live near-ish a fault line... but then my rational brain kicks in and says it's just a processing problem of some kind. Neurological mis-firing. But I tell you, I slept in a water bed until 10 years ago, and that sensation if happening in bed was very convincing!

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