Disappointed & sad

maxmama

I went to visit Mom today. I went to her room and she wasn't there so I went to ask somebody where she was. They said that they moved her to the secured side already. I was a little upset. Apparently they took her clothes and nothing else. Her favorite blanket was on the other person's bed and all of her pictures were still there on the wall, her stuffed animal and fuzzy pillow were still there, and also her recliner. The room she's in now is for 3 people instead of just two, and the TV doesn't work. Thank god a couple of the employees helped me bring her things over because I wasn't allowed to do it by myself. They tell me that they will move her recliner on Monday and talk to people about the TV on Monday but they couldn't do anything about it on the weekend. And the people over there on the secured side are worse. There's a lady walking around in nothing but her underwear, muttering unintelligibly. I was so upset I wished I could bring her home. They had called me earlier this week saying that they might have to move her to the secured side because she was walking into other people's rooms and hanging out by the front door trying to get out. But they never called me when they actually moved her. I don't feel so great about that place anymore.

BassetHoundAnn

I'm so sorry Maxmama. What you describe is absolutely heartbreaking. If it isn't bad enough that Alzheimer's robs our loved ones of their loved lives bit by bit, the people we trust to care for them sometimes ham-handedly rob them of bits of their life too. It's such a horrible disease. Often when I visit my mom in her memory care I want to hustle her home too. What makes it doubly hard is that I know that would be a very bad idea. Hugs from one suffering daughter to another.

harshedbuzz

mazmama-

I am so sorry for how badly this change was executed. Why does this sort of thing happen on the weekends when there is no maintenance person available to deal with furniture and TV and aides are too busy tending to basics to help transition your mom into her new space?

Is she meant to be in a semi-private room but with the emergency move there wasn't an open bed?

HB

maxmama

She's on Medicaid. I don't think I have a choice on what kind of room she gets.

mommyandme (m&m)

I’m so sorry for this chain of events, heart breaking!

harshedbuzz

maxmama-

Medicaid will generally pay for a semi-private (2 Beds) room.

I hope you can get her settled in with her familiar things quickly. 

HB

Anonymousjpl123

I’m so sorry to hear this. You are clearly a very loving daughter and trust me that matters. she is so lucky to have you looking out for her. I’m sorry you both had to go through such a traumatic weekend. I am sure that if you keep visiting, making sure she is getting the care she needs, and bringing things to make her comfortable, it will go a very very very long way.