Holiday

Klako

Easter will be the first holiday since my dad went to AL. In the past week he has been focused again on how long he will be there and things regarding his home. I have not taken him out of AL since he went in at the end of December. I am afraid because he doesn’t understand how AL works and I believe he thinks he is in more of a rehab situation. I am afraid if I take him out he will not want to go back or we will start the process of going home like when he first went to AL.

I am struggling with if I should bring him to our house for Easter. Part of me wants to leave well enough alone as he probably won’t remember anyway but sometimes the excuse of him not remembering feels like a cop out to make my life easier. So much guilt with everything Alzheimer’s! 

Looking for advice or experience on this. Thank you all for being here!

harshedbuzz

Klako-

If you suspect that entertaining him at home for Easter would agitate and him and set him back to furiously packing for his discharge, it would be a kindness-- not a cop-out-- not to.

Most ALs and MCFs have a celebration a few days before the holiday you could attend with other family members. Or if his orientation to time is such that he wouldn't notice, let it slide without a special visit.

HB

M1

Kisko,  I have not been able to take my partner out of MC since she went in a year ago.  For the same reasons.  I agree with HB on this one.

Whyzit

Hmmm m m m! I just am wondering. What is wrong with making your life easier?

Enjoy your holiday.

Klako

Thank you everyone….

As far as why not make it easier…I guess that is just guilt. I think I tend to project reality where there is no reality. How could I leave him somewhere by himself when his family is celebrating? How can I not go see him 6 out of 7 days a week when he doesn’t engage in activities in AL and is by himself? Since putting him into AL we have gotten some life back and it is good but not without the guilt that he is wishing he could be home and not understand why he is where he is. So I tend to struggle with each decision.

I appreciate all of your help and input since I am navigating on my own!

dayn2nite2

Do NOT bring him to your house for the holiday.