Hubby has stopped eating and drinking

numb

hospice put a catheter in Saturday as he did not void for 24 hours   He has only eaten maybe one full snackpack of pudding since friday and stopped drinking from his sippy cup I am swabbing his mouth.     He tried to talk when he is "awake" but we only understand a few. 

My son brought his boxer over, my husband LOVES that dog.   She went over to the bed stared at him and began to whimper for over a minute straight.  This lovable dog growled at any stranger from hospice that came to see him today. People she had met before with tail stub wags and wiggle butt.   She did not want to go home. 

His breathing has gotten alot faster tonight.  I gave him morphine and put his oxygen on.  As much as this long "journey" has been with all of the struggles I am not prepared for this man that I have been married to for 43 yrs to go.   My heart aches for my three children and his two grandkids whose heart will shatter. 

I pray that he will go as peaceful as possible when his time comes.    

Lost my Dad to this horrible disease almost 5 years ago now. 

God Bless all of you also caring for a loved one. 

M1

peace to you both

numb

thank you.   I woke up at 2 am and he was awake, spent a few minutes with him until he fell asleep again. I realize even some seconds spent with him awake are extremely precious right now.

Smilescountry

I am so sorry.  Hugs to you as you go through this part of the journey.

SusanB-dil

So sorry you are going through this.  Any stage of 'this' is hard. Yes, animals seem to just know things, don't they...  Just wishing you peace right now.

sunnydove

Oh numb, that is so heartbreaking. I'm sorry you're going through this - and a second time, no less. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Jgirl57

Hugs….

mommyandme (m&m)

I’m so sorry, I’m sending peace and comfort thoughts your way.

numb

Thank you all.

Yesterday morning hospice nurse came and we were repositioning him and cleaning him up and he started gagging and having trouble breathing he had plegm sp? in his throat. She did the cupped hands on his back, we gave him nebulizer treatment etc nothing was working. She ended up calling 911 to see if paramedics could suction him they said yes but then when they got here they said they don't do that.  He had finally either swallowed what was in his throat and stopped gaggng. It was horrible. Sounded like he was suffocating or drowning.

Hospice nurse gave me the option of having him go to the hospital Said no I know what will happen there and he is staying home with me.   They would have him on an uncomfortable cot bed for hours as they are understaffed and most people can't get a room for 12-24 hours.  

Hospice nurse had  a med company send a suction machine for home.

Thank goodness with the morphine and other meds that I have to "melt"  and with his nebulizer treatments he seems more peaceful tonight.

Again thank you all for your caring words.

ladyzetta

((((Dear Numb)))))

You and your DH are in my thoughts and prayers. You are a very thoughtful and caring wife and your DH is at peace knowing your there for him. Please take care of yourself and hopefully someone is there to help you. Hugs to you and your DH. Zetta 

CanyonGal

So sorry! It’s a horrible disease and so difficult at the end. I hope he has a peaceful passing.

Mint

Numb I’m so very sorry for you pain.  Hugs