Moving back....

Judide65

I've been living across the country from my family - including my EO LO. It's been 15 yrs since I lived near them. I just recently made the decision to move closer to all of them, including my EO LO (my sister). While it has been "easier" to manage my emotions from a distance, being closer will help with the little things and the not-so little things. I am scared that I will be only be taking care of her and everyone else.

I am looking for helpful ideas of boundary setting - for them and myself. Anyone?

TIA.

mommyandme (m&m)

in my experience, there were a few months I needed to figure out just what I needed, where my boundaries were, when I became moms primary caregiver. Even then, the hills and valleys continued with each new decline/stage. If you know now what you definitely cannot/will not do, more power on setting goals and boundaries. The learning curve is steep so be patient with yourself and your family. You’ve made a big decision. Keep coming back, reaching out and sharing.

SDianeL

I've found in many families there is always one person that does the care giving and the others have good intentions. I would sit down with them and make a plan including a detailed list of responsibilities down to the date and time. Have everyone agree. You can't do this alone. See what services are offered through her insurance. Talk to her doctor. Get the DPOA and Health Care POA signed and have with you as primary and appoint someone as a backup. Find a local support group. There was a post on this forum suggesting that we reach out to Hospice sooner than later to see what they offer. Praying for your strength.