We lost our son today

Quilting brings calm

I’m not sure that I’ve mentioned that my spouse and I have two adult sons. Today 4/24/2023, the worst happened and we lost our younger one, Nick, at the age of 31. I guess it is after midnight now, so yesterday. He lived almost 4 hours away from us and we had his boss, and then the police do a wellness check at his apartment. We hadn’t heard from him since Saturday and he didn’t show up for work today( Monday) . He had well controlled epilepsy and it appears he died in his sleep from a seizure. The police knew we were coming and they waited until we got there to tell us they had found him. Will find out more tomorrow.

Because we won’t make it back to our home until possibly Wednesday, I had to call my parents with dementia and tell them before they heard it from someone else. We had one of the AL staff members go be in the room with them before we called. They both are still in the mild stage so they understood.

I am in shock

Emily 123

Oh QBC, I am so very, very sorry. I don't know of anything to say that could possibly ease your heartache and shock. You and your family are in my prayers tonight.

Chammer

I am so sad for your devastating loss. I will pray for you and your family.

BassetHoundAnn

I'm so very sorry, QBC. What a shock that must have been. Please take care of yourself and your family during this difficult time. I will be thinking about you.

Jgirl57

Oh my! So very so sorry for you and your family .

M1

My heart breaks for you QBC. Your baby.

harshedbuzz

QBC-

I am so sorry. My heart aches for you and your family.

HB

Klako

I cannot even imagine. I am so sorry for your loss and will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Ed1937

Quilting, I'm so very sorry. Losing a child that young is devastating. We lost a son, age 26, back in 1998. Although it will never be OK, I can tell you that it does get easier with time. Prayers coming for you and your family.

loveskitties

So very sorry to hear of the loss of your young son. It must be devastating.

Prayers for you and your hubby and all who loved him.

jfkoc

I too send my love.....

ladyzetta

Dear Quilting, Iam so sorry for your loss, you and your family will be in my prayers. Hugs Zetta

telinde

I am sorry for your loss.

mommyandme (m&m)

Oh noooooo, I’m so sorry. Your kids are my kids’ ages. I can’t imagine the heartache. Oh dear, I wish peace to all of you. 💕

Quilting brings calm

Thank you all. I really appreciate your kind words. Ed, your comments about your own journey are very helpful to me. I’m still numb and possibly in denial. I’m sure that will change later. Right now it’s as if he’s just off somewhere out of sight. We have not seen him yet. It’s hard emptying out his portion of the apartment, but we can’t do anything else today.

BethL

I am so sorry for your loss.

Iris L.

QBC, please accept my condolences in the loss of your dear son, so young. I am praying for you and your family.

Iris

LJS45

I'm so sorry for your loss. How devastating. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Mint

Dear QBC I am so very sorry for your family’s loss of son and brother.

Battlebuddy

Oh this is just terrible news ! I’m so sorry Quilting. Your son is my sons age. It must just be a terrible shock and just heartbreaking. Your in my prayers.

eaglemom

Devastating, absolutely devastating. I am so sorry. Please accept my condolences. Take a breath and please please be kind to yourself. We are here for you whenever you feel like coming on.

eagle

MimiMinder

I was so very sorry to read your post. Losing a child is just something no one could be prepared for. My heart grieves for you.

CatsWithHandsAreTrouble

Oh QBC, I'm so sorry to hear of your son's passing! That's so rough. I would shower you and yours with many hugs and favorite treats if I could. I'm around your son's age. Very shocking.

(Hugs)

Jo C.

Dearest Quilting, there are not words sufficient to express how deeply and truly sorry I am for the tremendous and devastating loss of your beloved son. No matter that our children are grown adults, they are still our babies and hold a special place within our hearts.

We are holding you and your family in our thoughts and in our prayers.

With a soft hug being sent your way,

J.

PookieBlue

Quilting,

My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family. May the Lord wrap his arms around you and comfort you during this difficult time.

GothicGremlin

Oh, Quilting, that's shocking! I'm so very sorry. My deepest sympathy to you.

MN Chickadee

I am so very sorry. The grief over losing my mother was so life changing; I cannot fathom this burden you now carry from the grief of losing your child. I hope with time you will find peace. Please take care.

Quilting brings calm

Thank you all very much. We’ve gotten the apartment cleaned out and got everything back to our home 4 hours from his apartment last night. Ed and Josey - his apartment was in Muncie IN.

We went to the funeral home today, 30 minutes from our house. The director was very helpful. There was no pressure about which casket or vault. It took a long time because we had never planned a funeral before and wasn’t sure about what we wanted. Then I visited my parents at the AL( 35 minutes from our house in the opposite direction). Tomorrow I am staying home except to run clothing over to the funeral home.

My numbness is starting to wear off, and emotions are creeping in. My spouse is an emotional wreck.

Beachfan

My heart hurts for you; I am so, so sorry! To lose a child at any age must be devastating. (I have never suffered in this way.) Please know I am thinking of you and praying for you and your family. You have so much on your plate; stay strong.

Marp

I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.

Dutiful One

I am so sorry. There are no words that seem adequate. My heart and prayers go out for you.