Month living near his facility concludes tomorrow

Nowhere

What I’ve learned:

A. My visits bring him smiles.

B. I am smiling more interacting with him and getting to know his peers better.,

C. Experiencing less anxiety and depression knowing how he is physically, mentally, socially, emotionally, And in assisting him and his peers.

D. Quiet residents (especially those in wheel chairs) are unengaged for hours on end.

E. Being a retired teacher, I especially enjoy and value resident fortitude in the face of their cognitive challenges.

F. I see creativity in each individual.

G. He gives me a hug goodbye even at the locked facility door and says, “Don’t worry- I’m not going to push through”! (Truthfully I’d feel more assured not knowing this is what he’s thinking).

What I’m going to do next:

1. I listed my home for sale this past week. It’s an active market. Four showings today!
2. Have committed to moving near him so I can visit whenever.
3. Have spoken to Indianapolis Area for Aging and am actively exploring moving him, and placing him and my new home in the same town as our daughter. Many factors need to come together for this to happen and it’s looking feasible! Ed, thanks for your encouragement last year!

toolbeltexpert

Nowhere that is great on every level especially your visits being so good. I moved 1 month ago yesterday, I still have another trip to the storage unit to get every thing to the new house. I am much closer and I am getting visits from all the folks in the churches I used to serve. I am still dealing with a little depression at times. Making all those decisions on dw behalf was hard. Leaving our home of 30 years. But I press forward, I am greatful for the care dw gets. I have some sense of security for the financial part and have started the process of trying to grow the proceeds of our home sale. I have a long way to go before I will be settled in my new home, just started the second address change. That's a great picture of you both and your smile speaks volumes. Thank you for your post and may everything go smooth and be prosperous.

Stewart

Denise1847

Dear Nowhere. That is wonderful. I hope you continue to feel peace.

harshedbuzz

That's a really nice update and picture. You did a nice job explaining one of the upsides to placement- the ability to step back into the role of wife.

Good luck with the sale and move. If you're in a chain facility, they may have a sister facility near your daughter and assist with the transfer assuming it is of comparable quality.

HB

Ed1937

That's more great news! It seems like we are getting a little more of that lately, and it's always refreshing to hear. I'm glad for both of you.

M1

I too am pleased for you Nowhere--you've been through a long hard time. Great picture. Hope it will all fall into place for you. At least you can visit now, that's got to make such, such a difference.

So hard to hold on through the very hard times, but things do shift. Let's hope that message makes it.