Nursing home

admarise

Hi,

My mom is at a nursing home. She has been there for a few months now. And was moved to the behavioral unit about a month or so. She have behavior issues. Now they also think she have mental issues beside her dementia. She have aggressive behavior at times, mainly toward me her main caregiver or the nursing staff.

This morning around midnight I missed a call from the nursing (I missed), and had a voicemail saying they were calling with an urgent update on my mom. I called and was told another resident had gone in to her room while she was sleeping and attacked her. They say she is ok and no injuries or bruises. But I am upset. I know that the residents are all confused and everything. But it is very upsetting. In a small amount of time I had so many emotions. She is over 1 hour away from me. I called in to work and going to see her this morning. I couldn’t go to work without seen she is ok.

I am unsure on how to manage this, beside of having a conversation with the nurse manager about it. That I know is not going to change anything. Any suggestions on how to handle this?

thanks,

Maria

MColarossi

Oh my Maria I am so sorry to read this and my heart breaks for you. It’s awful to feel helpless in this situation and will keep you and your mom in my thoughts and prayers.🙏🏻🙏🏻

mommyandme (m&m)

Maria, I’m so sorry for this situation for you and your mom. I have no experience with this so I can only say I care and hope for a resolution. Hate this for you and yours and all of us!

harshedbuzz

I'm sorry.

Since she has had documented behavior issues, you may have trouble advocating for a move back into the general population area or a different SNF.

I would want to know what steps they are taking to keep this from happening again.

HB

admarise

Thanks for the support. I just got to the town that the nursing home is located. The visiting hours start at 930 am. So I am waiting to get in.

thanks,

Maria

M1

Let us know Maria. Any resident with behavioral issues that severe to attack another resident needs to be removed, he/she will likely be sent to a psychiatric ward for treatment. I am so sorry that happened and I am hopeful that your mother is okay.

You not only need a plan for her own care and behavior management but a careful plan for how they will prevent anything similar.

admarise

Hi all,

thanks for your concerns and for listening. Mom was actually ok. She told me a new female resident went in to her room and was going thru her things. I did not said this before but she only speaks Spanish, and was trying to usher the lady out of her room. She said she could not get her out of her room, took a towel and put it in front of her self and continue to try to get the lady out of her room. So she started screaming for help because she could not get her out. Mom said she was afraid to get hurt or that the other lady would get hurt.

mom was started on Haldol last week and it seems to definitely improve her thinking and her behavior. I hope this continues.

thanks,

Maria

admarise

Mom’s update:

she had been put on new medications and her behavior has changed like day and night. The neurologist at the facility is also talking about moving her to the regular nursing home bed… not the memory care unit to make it easier to move her closer!!! Keeping 🤞🏼 the las few weeks has been great with her behavior change and she seems to be more of my old mom!!! Still with dementia but so much calm!!!

thanks for listening

Maria

admarise

Hi all,

i need some advice. My older sister was talking to my mom today on the phone. She has been complaining of this one particular resident. Same-one that got in to her room and attacked her at the beginning of this discussion. While my sister was on the phone with her today this resident smack my mom in the face. The phone felt out of moms hands. They took the lady away from mom. My mom got mad… but did not do anything about it. My sister got upset, my mom is angry and trying not to hit back. But I am concerned about my mom. I am concerned about her getting hurt and about her getting mad because she is attacked and defending herself end up hurting this other resident. I also got upset about it. I am more upset because I did not get a call about this incident. I am trying to think about how to handle this. I will be calling the nurse manager in the morning. I was told a few weeks ago that she will be moving to a regular floor because she is doing much better. I don’t want this to regress all her progress. Any ideas on how to approach this?

thanks