bad day

lizblock

I've been optimistic about my partner who is recently diagnosed (although the changes started earlier) but today, I felt angry at my partner for some trivial matter, that anger grew, but, ultimately I realized I was overwhelmed with grief and needed to cry about the future "my husband and I were going to have" that is now forever lost. we were able then to cry together about it

M1

Welcome to the forum Liz, you have come to a good place for support. The losses are awful, awful, and I am glad if you are able to grieve together for a while. All of us here are in the same boat to one degree or another. This is a good place to share your feelings with people who understand, and also to get lots and lots of practical tips about what's ahead--if you read a lot of threads you wlll find things that you have anticipated and things you haven't that will resonate. As is always said to newcomers, glad you found us but sorry you need to.

jfkoc

Hi from me too...

This is a good place to get support and also to get some very creative solutions to problems!

Judith

CatsWithHandsAreTrouble

Hi lizblock, go ahead and cry! Dementia catches a lot of us off guard and all our plans for the future have to be altered, put on hold, or abandoned. It is awful. It is so worth a good cry.

Sometimes it is hard to realize when we're getting overwhelmed to the point of lashing out, I know that is something I struggle being aware of. Try not to beat yourself up over it when it happens. We all do it. You always have a chance to react better next time. You're doing your best and I'm sure your partner appreciates it.

lizblock

I feel so heartened by all your words of support. I was afraid to look at the responses to my comment- thought maybe I was not supposed to cry with my partner.

For the moment, tho, crying is bringing us closer

M1

Every now and then (but mostly not) my partner would have some insight that she was losing function. It was heartbreaking. We called in "brain failure," in the same vein as heart failure or kidney failure. But mostly, she didn't know or realize. And now she is way past that and doesn't realize at all. At some point, you end up having to share your grief with someone other than your partner, which is also very very hard. But for now, I am glad that you can still share.