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From A. Marie: Entering Stage 8, and thanks to you all

A. Marie
A. Marie Member Posts: 118
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I've only ever commented here occasionally, and this is my first (and possibly last) post on the new site. But I just wanted to let you know that my DH (age 74) died on Sunday 6/4, after struggling with Alzheimer's since 2011 (as I've realized in hindsight), getting as close to a formal diagnosis as possible in 2018, and being in an SNF since 2021.

The Spouse/Partner list has been my lifeline ever since I discovered it. I would be utterly remiss if I did not thank you all for everything I've learned here. I've gotten more out of lurking here than I've gotten from all the professionals I've consulted. Ed1937 in particular deserves a halo. Blessings on you all.

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  • Denise1847
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    Hi Marie,

    I am so sorry for your loss and your struggles. May you have peace and again see joy in life.

  • Beachfan
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    Marie,

    I am sorry to learn of your loss. I, too, entered stage 8 recently (April 21) after DH’s long journey with Alz. Yes, this forum has been a lifeline through it all and “Mayor” Ed has been a rock for everyone for as long as I’ve been a member, regardless of their dilemma, rant, question, concern……..a halo is appropriate! I hope you find peace and happiness as you navigate the aftermath. Bless you.

  • Mint
    Mint Member Posts: 2,678
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    Marie I am so very sorry for your loss of your dear husband.

  • ghphotog
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    Very sorry to hear.

  • Sligo177
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    Marie,

    I'm so sorry for the loss of your DH. Agree with you about everyone in this beautiful group, including Ed1937. I wish you peace and strength.

  • White Crane
    White Crane Member Posts: 851
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    Marie, I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear husband.

  • mrahope
    mrahope Member Posts: 529
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    So, so sorry you have lost your LO. May time bring you peace and healing.

  • M1
    M1 Member Posts: 6,722
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    Peace to you Marie.

  • Ed1937
    Ed1937 Member Posts: 5,084
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    I'm so sorry you are now having to deal with such a devastating loss. I know how hard it has been for me, and I'm sure you're feeling the same thing I am. I wish you peace and healing in the coming times.

    Thank you for mentioning my name, but this thread is not about me or anyone else here. It's about seeing this job coming to an end, and searching for a new life. Anytime you might feel like posting, please do. We'll be here for you. I wish you well.

  • Jgirl57
    Jgirl57 Member Posts: 469
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    I am glad this site was helpful to you and I also feel it is a lifeline for me. Love and hugs to you and your family. So sorry for your loss

  • Pat6177
    Pat6177 Member Posts: 442
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    My sincere condolences. Take care through this coming transition.

  • F&E
    F&E Member Posts: 33
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    So sorry for your loss. Wishing you a fast healing and full recovery in stage 8.may peace be with you

  • Last Dance
    Last Dance Member Posts: 135
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    I am sincerely sorry for your loss please take comfort in the fact that he is no longer suffering he is free of pain, confusion and a life that he never would have chosen. God's blessings to you as you start a new life without him.

  • JoseyWales
    JoseyWales Member Posts: 602
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    Marie, I'm so sorry for your loss. May you find peace ahead.

  • toolbeltexpert
    toolbeltexpert Member Posts: 1,583
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    Marie my condolences, your comments have always been comforting. I don't have any words other than you will continue in my prayers daily.

  • Rocky2
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    Marie,

    I greve with you in the loss of your DH. I pray that you will lean on God and find His peace in the path ahead.

  • Joydean
    Joydean Member Posts: 1,498
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    Peace, strength and comfort for you Marie. God bless you and your family.

  • annewilder
    annewilder Member Posts: 25
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    I'm a stranger to you and new here...However, I am sending you a big hug.....and wish you peace.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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