By White Crane: "I can't be an adult."

White Crane

That was what my husband said to me yesterday morning. He was upset and said it several times. When I asked him what he meant, he said, "I can't drive a car anymore. I can't ride a bike. I can't go for a walk by myself; I might get lost. I can't stay by myself. I need someone with me. I can't go to a store and buy something. I can't be an adult." That really got me. He was making so much sense but I had never thought of it that way...I can't be an adult.

A couple of other things he has said lately make a lot of sense also: "We used to have fun...when we both had our act together." "When you're a kid, you learn things. When you grow up, you do things. When you get old, you forget things."

toolbeltexpert

Brenda those lucid moments to me seem so hard. How true what you wrote!

Stewart

Ed1937

I'm sorry, Brenda.

M1

Gut punches. My partner recently told me she doesn't think she has much time left. I hope she's right, and I hope she's wrong.

Jeanne C.

As M1 said, Gut punches. I swear the moments of clarity hurt more than the confusion. I would hug you if I could.

RickM

Yes WC, it is indeed tough. I took my DW back to her home in MC after a day out and about with myself and her sister who was visiting, tucked her into bed, and she looked at me with a look that seemed to say "Why here?"

Annen1014

I think your husband is very insightful. I know my DH feels the same way.