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The first thing I say.....

Malka
Malka Member Posts: 100
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When I call people that I haven't spoken to in a while, be they relatives or friends, is "No, he is still alive." The see my name on the caller ID and they think I am calling to tell them my dad is dead. I feel funny about it. Does anyone else have this happen?

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  • BassetHoundAnn
    BassetHoundAnn Member Posts: 478
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    I always open by saying something upbeat and I start with a cheery voice. Like "Calling to say mom is doing well." Or, "We have good news. Mom is doing better. How are things with you?" Or "Just calling to say hi from mom and I, and see how you are doing." Like you I don't want them to see my number and think oh-oh, she's calling with the news.

  • MN Chickadee
    MN Chickadee Member Posts: 891
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    Oh yes definitely been there. And whenever a staff from the facility called me they always opened up with "everything is fine." Every stage brings different oddities to our lives.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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