Crisis advice requested: dad being removed from MC facility due to violent behaviors

Yanne

My dad is being removed from the memory care facility a 2nd time via Emergency Services (they decided to keep him once in between when he fell asleep after an outburst) due to violent behaviors. The MC facility has said they cannot take him back. What should I be thinking of? So far I have called and left a message for the social worker, and am researching if his insurance can cover an extended stay while the meds that he was started on are revised. He has been on Seroquel and Zyprexa as needed for about a week (clearly not working!). He absolutely can NOT go back home; while on the one hand, being around my mom may help calm him, but I just don't feel she's safe anymore ... he was placed in MC for a reason. Thanks in advance for those who have one through this. :-(

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solerdr

Yes, getting your father into a hospital who can adjust meds, or give him meds that will alter his behavior is a good way to go; however, beware if they prescribe Gabapentin. Gabapentin has some very serious side-effects.

Hospital prescribed my father Gabapentin and 30 days later he was bed-ridden and could not talk...it was the Gabapentin.

In the meantime, you could give your father 500mg of Magnesium Citrate twice a day, which can help calm him. Of course monitor as he may get loose stool. You can also use Lavendar essential oil. Of course, another route is CBD if you are fortunate enough to live in a state where CBD is legal.

Please know I am not a medical professional and am only providing advice based upon what has and has not worked with my father.

I wish you the best.

May God's light guide your day and His spirit bring you peace.

Damion

Malka

Tell them there is no safe release. That should give you a few more days to find an answer. They should help you.

harshedbuzz

@Yanne

I expected this. I am so sorry.

Your move is that he cannot come home as he is a danger to your mother. Full stop. They need to send him to a geripsych unit/facility for a short stay to get his aggression under control. Medicare/Medicaid should cover this. Once there, the social worker can arrange discharge to a LTC facility that is willing to work with him. It may not be as close or as "fancy" but hopefully staff will be well-trained. IME, the places willing to deal with "behaviors" (i.e. not cherry pick residents for only the cute and pleasantly befuddled) tend to have the best trained staff.

HB