Gratitude

RickM

I've recently moved my DW to MC. It hurts. It makes my life easier, but, darn, it still hurts. The only positive is that maybe now I have time to mourn...and maybe have time to find some gratitude.

MC's often like to have families to write up a biography so that staff knows something of the loved one's life, before dementia.

I'm writing one up tonight and I find myself just amazed at the life Melissa, and I have had. I was so lucky to meet her and for us to have the 40 years of life together, doing all we ever dreamed of doing, and to have a wonderful son who is just this week engaged to a wonderful gal.

Yes, living with dementia is horrible. I keep telling myself to have gratitude for the many good years.

We've all got to find something to get us through this. I'm going to start with gratitude.

Best wishes to all of you,

Rick

Ed1937

Rick, that's a great attitude. But even when you look for the good things, you will still find a way to hurt, that's a given.

My wife has been gone over a year now, and like you, I look back at all the things we did together, and I am amazed. Then I think of how fortunate I was to wind up with her, then the loss creeps in. I hope you can put a positive spin on it that will last.

M1

Congratulations on your son's engagement. It helps me to know that life goes on. And yes, those of us lucky enough to have had happy partnerships can count ourselves very, very fortunate.

I understand the pain Rick, i really do.

Dio

Rick, the pain will be there, but it'll evolve into a different type of pain. Allow yourself the space and time to grief.

Congrats on your son's engagement! How blessed we are to have experienced such a great love with another person in this lifetime?! Indeed, we have much to be grateful for.

CorrieG

Thank you so much for the reminder to be grateful for the life we have had. We are not to the MC stage yet, but I hope that I can weather the future with the same attitude!