Rough Night
We had a full day yesterday and we were both tired when we went to bed. He always talks for ten to fifteen minutes after we get in bed but last night he seemed to be especially worried that the door might not be locked. I assured him time after time and we finally got to sleep. I woke up at 1:45 with him standing over me and pulling at the covers and picking at the bed. He said he was checking. Next he wandered all over the second floor and finally I heard him going downstairs. Nothing I said seemed to help. Long story short, I found him downstairs going from room to room and the front door was wide open. He kept saying there were people in the house. It took over a half hour to finally get him back to bed and even then he refused to lie down for another ten minutes or so. I was so tired! I tried everything...talking softly and reassuring him. I told him the police had come and checked the house and everything was okay. I talked loud, soft, sweet, harsh, I sang hymns to him...nothing. Finally I guess he just wore out because he finally laid back down but kept rambling for another ten minutes or so.
I felt so helpless! Most of the time I handle things pretty well but when he's not really awake and not really asleep, there seems no way to communicate with him. I'm really tired this morning but have a dental appointment this morning so am up and eating breakfast. Thanks for listening to me ramble.
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I'm sorry that you both had such a rough night. It must have been so stressful for both of you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers today.
Tom
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Thank you , Tom. Much appreciated.
Brenda
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Brenda, sorry you had such a time. If out of the ordinary things continue, you might want to consider a UTI test.
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Everything is worse at night, isn't it? Hope you got your second wind. Opening the door is scary.
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Oh Brenda, I can really identify with this. Just as we think we are "handling" things, a giant file cabinet comes froom out of the sky and lands on our heads! ( I don't know where that imagery came from, probably because i've been in the files this week looking for legal docs to copy.) The front door scenario is a nightmare. I hope you can get some rest sooner rather than later, and that it went well at the dentist's.
Wishing you at least 8 hours of peaceful sleep.
Maureen
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I feel you on the night time stuff. DH has lately been having to ask me if it's day or night. There seems to be no rhyme or reason to his sleeping habits. FWIW, I'm so happy we no longer share a room. Otherwise I'd never get any rest. Lately he seems to like falling asleep sitting up with the TV on.
Hoping that everything calms down by tonight.
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I am so sorry.
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So sorry. Is he on any medication? My DH has had 4 episodes at night almost like sleep walking. Hallucinations saying he dropped something. He got the flashlight to look for "it" I asked him what and he just kept saying "it". He would get disoriented and not be able to find the bathroom. The Neurologist put him on Memantine at night and now on Risperidone 1/2 tab AM & PM. He takes the Memantine & Risperidone right before bed. That seems to help. We'll see.
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Brenda, I’m sorry you had such an awful night. It makes everything so much harder the next day, trying to deal with all of this without sleep. Have you talked to his doctor about medications? That was the thing that worked with my DH. They do have to be adjusted from time to time.
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