Incontinent tips?

patiron

Hi family---any methods to help with avoiding toilet accidents? We have been taking Mom at least every hour to the bathroom.

she asks "where is the bathroom" as she doesn't remember where it is. We have a lighted toilet bowl that draws attention. I say have a seat, nice n clean. We "standby" for assistance. We have some Amazon "flush" signs on the wall. This seems to help, what do you do?

the accidents are hard for her and us, she balks hard or is simply defiant towards changing her clothes or letting us help her clean up after

Emily 123

Hi patiron,

Hate to ask, but you had mentioned anxiety meds recently too--has she been checked for a UTI?

If not a UTI, It may be that a prescription for meds to help her anxiety may also help with this. If she's still in regular underwear, those should be removed from her clothing choices and she should be switched to incontinence briefs.

I use this brand for my mom on the recommendation of another poster and have been pleased with them, but there are many vendors. You can use the magnifying glass on the upper right header to search for the topic to see more discussion.

https://www.parentgiving.com/collections/dry-direct-by-parentgiving

patiron

Thanks for your share

i had the thought of UTI and so we will check into that right away. Only occasionally do we use the briefs so I'll be on board with those more regularly. Gosh thanks again for your recommendation.

DebDeb

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/184255#Comment_184255

Did you find those Italian diapers ran small?

Emily 123

I think they're pretty true to size, but they have a chart for each type--I would measure just to be sure. The side panels are soft with some stretch.

DCCEPEK

I'm feeling ya with the toilet issues. It will only get worse. Sad but true, sounds like you're about where we are with mil.

Prayers

CKCMaggio

My loved one has forgotten how to use the toilet for the most part. Wants to just stand in front of it and go, rather than sitting down. She's in a facility and does wear undergarments, but I don't know how they deal with this all day (or if they do). It's a bigger problem on the occasions I want to take her out and she needs to use a restroom. I advise her to sit down like she would on a chair, but she just stands there and it becomes very frustrating. I just don't get how she can easily sit on a regular chair, but not a toilet? Has anyone else experienced this, or have any tips?

Marta

She may be fearful of sitting on a toilet because there is a big hole in it.

For some dementia patients it is helpful to have a brightly colored toilet seat rather than white, so that they can judge the dimensions better; conversely, you could color the toilet water. Make sure there are grab rails on both sides of the toilet and that the seat is elevated if she has musculoskeletal issues.

jfkoc

Also, protect all the furniture and get a riser for the toilet seat.