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Don’t know if this is funny or terrifying!

mommyandme (m&m)
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So far we’re laughing and just shaking our heads.

My husband came to me frustrated, exclaiming that our water heater had quit, with just a towel on. We all know how daunting that news is. I took a few and then went to a sink and tried it. (Meanwhile he’s rushed into the crawl space, a difficult place to repair or replace a water heater, getting ready to tackle the issue.) I found hot water. Then I went to the shower, saw that the faucet was turned to the right (towards cold water right), got hot water. I ran down to him and told him “there’s hot water… and don’t touch anything). Now my husband is a handy man. He’s done everything in this house we’ve had for 35 years, I trust him with the water heater. I told him the faucet was turned to the right, he said “that’s the hot water side”. Um noooooo! I left him sitting on the crawl space floor quietly looking at the water heater valves etc…. In the mean time, my daughter called and I whispered this most recent foible. Thinking to myself…WTH. He finally came in, dittoed my thoughts exactly and there we were, shaking our heads. Our water is hot btw.

Then later that day… let me explain first…my husband and I just got back from a trip. On this trip together with my bro and SIL, I got a pretty crappy blister on my foot while hiking…So when I came downstairs after nursing my poor little blister, I told him I had it and asked if he wanted to see it. He said he had already seen it. I was perplexed and I’m sure my confusion was visible on my face. I thought how could he have seen it? It truly took me a minute or more. He was on the trip WITH me and on the hike when it happened and while I limped around the rest of the trip. Oh my goodness! WTH! He said did you forget I was with you? It was only a day or so before that we got back. I’m chalking both episodes up to jet lag.

For now…we are still laughing. My daughter might be very worried though. Better get to that CELA!

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  • forbarbara
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    I’m so glad you’re laughing!

  • mommyandme (m&m)
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    Guess I should be terrified. Maybe since I found some humor in and around my journey with dementia thus far, besides the heartache and misery, I try to keep it light. Wish I didn’t know about dementia and if I didn’t I would probably ignore these seemingly minor issues. It’s probably too soon. If I’m physically immersed in it again I imagine it will be my husband and/or I. Maybe these are signs I shouldn’t joke about. I’m sorry for being insensitive to all of us and especially the spouses battling this now.

    I do hope for some peace and comfort to everyone here. Thanks for the support and wisdom you all have provided me and mine, always.

  • SDianeL
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    Glad you can see humor. It helps. Don't feel bad about talking about funny things here. We totally understand. My DH Stage 5 was coming into the kitchen, filling up a pitcher of hot water to take to the bathroom to shave with. I asked him why and he said there is no hot water in the bathroom sink. I went and checked and there sure was. He was turning it to the cold side. Now when he's going to shave, I go in there and turn the hot water on before he gets in there. (it takes a long time for the hot water to reach the faucet) and I leave it turned to the hot side. He asked me how I got hot water in there. I said it takes awhile. Then he looked at the faucet and said "oh.. it needs to be pointed to the red side. I read that you can put red & blue tape or "Hot & Cold" notes on the faucet handle in the sink & bathtub to remind them of which side. One funny I shared was after I convinced my DH to allow me to do his meds for the week (took me 6 months), he finally said OK. The first time I did it and got them all ready for the week, he took a $10 bill out of his wallet, walked over to me, told me I was a genius and gave me the $10 tip. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry, so I did both. Laughed because of the sweet funny thing he did and cried because it was so child like and we both knew he crossed another milestone in this terrible disease.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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