Major Turmoil

livlea

She found out her drivers licence was no longer valid by registered letter.

she is in distress all alone in her apartment won’t let us in , she blames all her kids and now grandkids , she believe we orchestrated the whole thing , we can’t reason that it was the doctor who sent the form to the driving bureau.

she does not believe the so called doctor that told her she has Alzheimer and they need to protect her, she threatened to take all her money and hire the best lawyer to defend herself .

we know we can’t reason with her , but what will happen now ??

a social worker is supposed to show up Monday morning but we think she wont let her in

sister from out of town is arriving today , she might be able to communicate with her what should she tell her ?

do we have to wait till something terrible happens that will bring her to the emergency and have her medicated?

soooo heartbreaking 💔

SusanB-dil

Oh, my - so sorry you are dealing with that. Does someone have DPOA and HIPPA accesses? Do tell her doctor she is this upset, maybe doc can prescribe something to calm her down some? Is she taking any meds that you could add one more? If not, perhaps best bet is emergency.

Yes it is heartbreaking!

Could someone get the doctor's office to write a note stating it was them, and that it is for her safety as well as other's safety? If she does calm down, though, you may not wish to bring it back up... In the meantime, make sure the car is disabled. "Something is wrong with the car and the part is on backorder, so really can't drive it 'at the moment', anyway." Repeat as necessary - or come up with whatever works.

livlea

Nothing is working , she hangs up when the doctor calls,(it’s a new geriatric doctor ) mom thinks the Doctor is not real that it’s a conspiracy, she cancelled the POA back in February at the Notary, we are now in the Guardianship process (might take months) doctor sending a social worker on Monday to come in to evaluate her , we think she won’t let her in..

the doctor did increase her Risperidone dosage , will take time to take effect

harshedbuzz

I would contact the attorney handling the guardianship process and loop them in. You may need to move forward with emergency guardianship asap. My aunt had to do that for her sister when she found her living in a cold dark house listed for sheriff's sale and tooling around mid-coast Maine with her long-time frenemy who had also developed dementia.

I can appreciate that she's angry, but if she's not in imminent danger (suicide or flight) it might make sense to just let things settle. Maybe park a family member 24/7 outside her door to avoid elopement. If she has a trustworthy friend who shares your concerns but who she still trust, perhaps that person could be with her to validate her feelings and keep her safe until the social worker shows up.

If you fear she's a risk to herself or others, call 911 and have her transported to the ER for a psych evaluation and potential stay for medication.

HB

harshedbuzz

@livlea

How'd it go over the weekend? Was the social worker able to connect with her today?

HB

livlea

Life is full of twist. … my sister from out of town arrived yesterday and went to visit my mother this morning ( she is the only one not on the black list … yet) social worker showed up pretending to be an old friend of my sister’s…she and Mom got along like house on fire .

How strange life is !

did not get the full report yet !