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He is at peace!

With a mixture of relief and deep sadness I want to tell you my DH passed away at 4:45 a.m.His favorite aide was with him at the time it happened in Memory Care. I had just seen him between 5 and 6 pm and he ate his pureed dinner and later we played our usual match the animal cards and a wooden puzzle he liked. He did say Hi and used my name when I first saw him at dinner last night. He didn't always remember my name. Before I left ,we kissed each other goodbye.

Of course I feel numb that this journey is over with. He was diagnosed 7 1/2 yrs ago and 5 + yrs ago he had brain surgery due to brain bleeds after a fall. I am blessed that we had almost 40 yrs of a wonderful marriage ( Dec 10th ) I am indebted to those on this site who have been so helpful and say a daily prayer for those caretakers who are still on this journey. DH was 93 and 1/2 and was his usual sweet self throughout this horrible disease. Pray God they some day find a cure.

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  • Joe C.
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    my sincere condolences on the loss of your husband. May you find some peace in the days ahead.

  • Mint
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    Elshack I am so very sorry for the loss of your dear husband.

  • JeriLynn66
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    I’m so sorry for your loss, prayers for peace in the days to come.

  • CindyBum
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    I am so sorry for your loss and honor the relief you feel alongside the sadness.

  • ImMaggieMae
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    Elahack, I am so sorry for your loss.

  • Marta
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    I’m so sorry, Elshack.

  • tigersmom
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    Elshack, so very sorry for the loss of your DH. I am glad you had such a good visit the night before. I hope in time the happy memories will shine through all the difficult years.

  • eaglemom
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    I am so sorry for you loss. In reading what you posted I couldn't help but think what a wonderful evening you'd spent together. He'd eaten, you'd played a game and he'd spoken to you. That is what you need to hang on to at the moment. Be kind to yourself and we are here for you.

    eagle

  • midge333
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    I am sorry for your loss.

  • JoseyWales
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    Elshack, I'm so very sorry. You were there for him throughout. My prayers and thoughts are with you as you remember the life you had together.

  • ghphotog
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    Very sorry to hear about your DH

  • ButterflyWings
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    Elshack - sending my heartfelt condolences on the loss of your dear husband. What a blessing to hear him say your name and have some sweet moments together on Thanksgiving. He is free. May you have better days ahead in due time, and find freedom post-dementia, as well.

  • Jgirl57
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    Peace and hugs to you. How sweet for you to hear him say your name .

  • Beachfan
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    Elshack,

    I am sorry to read of your loss. You cared for him long and lovingly. He is at peace; I wish you peace. A sad but lovely ending to your love story. Rest now. 💕

  • M1
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    Peace to you Elshack, i am glad he is at journeys end and that your last moments together were sweet. May you have rest and comfort.

  • Janice Blair
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    Ss God bless and give you comfort forhe is angel watching down

  • Dio
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    My condolences for your loss. May you be comforted in the sweet memories of your husband. Live well and thrive in the days ahead! I think that's what he'd want for you, and us, too.

  • Kibbee
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    I am so sorry to hear about your DH. He had a long and challenging journey, take comfort in knowing you supported him every step of the way.

  • Iris L.
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    It's good that you two could be together before the end. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your dear husband.

    Iris

  • LJCHR
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    So sorry for the loss of your husband.

  • Vitruvius
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    Peace and strength to you in the days ahead.

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 4,550
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    I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband.

    HB

  • Davegrant
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    Eishack,

    I am sorry for your loss. I send you warm caring thoughts.

  • A. Marie
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    My sympathy and best wishes, Elshack. I'm glad his passing was peaceful, and I'm glad your DH retained his sweet personality to the end (as mine did).

  • ​fesk
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    I am very sorry for your loss.

  • Palmetto Peg
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    I'm am so sorry to hear of your loss. It was such a blessing that your last time together was filled with happiness. Take good care of yourself on your anniversary, and try to remember that wonderful day that you two became a couple! Blessings to you and your family.

  • White Crane
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    Elshack, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. Get some rest and try to hold on to the sweet memories.

    Brenda

  • Howaboutnow
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    I’m sorry for your loss and thankful you had a nice visit on his last night on earth.

  • toolbeltexpert
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    Elshack I am sorry for loss. Praying for you.

  • Buggsroo
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    I am so sorry for the loss of your husband, he sounds like he was lovely. I lost mine this morning as well and know of the feelings you are experiencing as I am having them as well. My condolences for your loss.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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