Enter Stage 8: our AD journey has ended

Jeff86

My amazing and beautiful DW passed away early this morning in her sleep. She looked peaceful as she left this earth.

As prepared as I thought I was—heck, we’ve had hospice care for three months—I find myself shocked though not surprised. How odd the tricks our minds play.

It hurts, deeply, knowing I will never see her beautiful blue eyes again. I know I will be OK…eventually….but I miss my DW something awful. Of course, I have been missing her for years.

I am grateful for so many things. I am grateful that her suffering is over, and that she will not face the awful ravages of stage 7. I am grateful that, with the exceptional care of loving aides who have been on this journey with me for five years, I could keep my DW home all the way to the end. And I am grateful, enormously grateful, for all of the wise and loving counsel and shared experiences I have been fortunate to share in on this incomparable forum. You are extraordinarily giving and generous people and I wish you all well as you continue on your journeys.

ButterflyWings

Jeff - I am so sorry for this sad news, though we know it is coming for all of our LOs (and all of us eventually). You have been such a loving and giving husband to your beloved wife, caregiving so tenderly and ensuring her safe passage. May the joys of your life together remain a blessed memory and the challenges of this phase fade in time.

ButterflyWings

M1

Jeff my friend....words fail. I am so glad you had the help you needed to keep her with you all the way through. Peace to you and all of your family.

Dio

So sorry for your loss. Whenever I read a post about someone's LO having passed, I feel quite envious but also relief for the poster. There is a quiet grace in the death of someone suffering, that the suffering is over. May your days ahead be peaceful and may you live well!

charley0419

Jeff I’ve just meant you for for time but my heart goes out you. It’s hard for me to get head around my DW will get worse as since diagnosis was yr ago it’s short memory and confused at times

tigersmom

Jeff, so very sorry for the loss of your beloved DW. I wish you peace and comfort in the memories of better days.

JeriLynn66

I’m very sorry for the loss of your dear wife.

Quilting brings calm

Jeff, I’m sorry for your loss. I hope the memory of those blue eyes gives you comfort as you deal with everything from now on.

Jeanne C.

You have been a great caregiver and so devoted to your wife. You will be in my thoughts. I hope you find peace. Be kind to yourself and keep practicing gratitude. Take care.

Joydean

Jeff I’m glad her passing was peaceful and now she is free of this horrible disease. I pray for peace, strength and comfort for you and your family in the coming days. Take care of yourself now!

ImMaggieMae

Jeff, I am so so sorry to hear of your dear wife’s passing. You were such a devoted husband and did so much to make her journey through this awful disease as peaceful and filled with love as possible. You kept her at home with you and were there until the end. Blessings and peace to you and your family.

LJCHR

So sorry for the loss of your wife.

CindyBum

I'm so sorry, Jeff.

Vitruvius

It saddens me greatly each time I read of someone's LO passing. Peace and strength in the days ahead.

Mint

Jeff, I am so very sorry for the loss of your dear wife.

harshedbuzz

I am sorry for the loss of your dear wife.

HB

Davegrant

Jeff,

I am sorry for the loss of your wife. I wish you well.

Dave

Joe C.

Jeff, I am so sorry to read of the passing of your wife. You has been an amazing caregiver and she was blessed to have you by her side. I hope you can find some peace as you transition to stage 8. Be kind to yourself my friend.

A. Marie

Sympathy and best wishes from one Stage 8 member to another, Jeff. Your words capture so many of my own feelings--especially the part about never being as prepared for a spouse's physical death as we think we are.

Denise1847

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/67194/enter-stage-8-our-ad-journey-has-ended

I am so sorry. May God give you peace and restoration.

​fesk

I am very sorry for your loss.

toolbeltexpert

Jeff so sorry for your loss and that she is suffering anymore. May Gods peace be with you in this time and in all the times when grief is too much.

Caro_Lynne

May your DW rest in peace. I pray that you find comfort in the fact you were there for her until the end xo

jfkoc

Thank you for letting us know. We share your sadness...especially those of us in Stage 8.

Please remember that we are still here to lean on and please do not listen to anyone who tells you what you should do or feel. Grief is personal. You will have to live with it your way. At first it can consume. In time it will simply walk quietly by your side.

Sending a viral shoulder.

Fondly....Judith

Palmetto Peg

Jeff, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear wife. We all know the "grief and relief" that comes with the passing of someone suffering as she did. I hope you can find peace and comfort knowing that you were everything to her until the very end. Best wishes that you and your family can keep the good memories in your hearts.

midge333

I am sorry for your loss.

JoseyWales

Jeff, I am so very sorry for your loss. This disease only ends one way... but it's still so hard.

May you remember the good times.

Kibbee

Condolences on the loss of your dear wife. May you find peace in remembering happier times together.

Beachfan

Dear Jeff,

I am so sorry to learn of your loss. I have long admired your strength and tenacity in caring for your DW at home. That was my plan; it didn’t come to fruition. Stage 8 can be dark, cold and dreary, but with time, things get better, little, by little, by little. I am thinking of you, your family, and your DH and praying for all of you. Peace, and brighter days ahead.

mrahope

So sorry to hear of this. I'm sure so many emotions are alive in you now. May the memory of the good times enrich your life always.