Tempers and Outrage

Csok2023

My mother has been diagnosed with Dementia and Parkinson's but is refusing to admit she has it which I am aware that this is normal. She is going against everything I try to assist her with including what the doctors have suggested for her. She has made me out to be the "bad guy" very publicly as well as point blank to my face. She is mean and is beginning to show temper tantrums as well. I need help because her and I have always been close with each other until recently and she is pushing me away. I am at my wits end and I just want to walk away. Help!!

M1

Welcome to the forum, though sorry you have need of it. Have you talked to her doctors about this behavior? There are medications that can help (Seroquel, risperidone).

mommyandme (m&m)

I’m wondering what doctors suggestions you’re trying to implement? Depends on the doctor on whether their advice will actually be helpful. Many times here I’ve read that a doctor was way off base and/or didn’t truly understand the dementia experience. Not trying to discount your medical advice, just that no two dementia patients are the same even though there are often similar behaviors and symptoms.

I found with my mom, validating feelings, taking responsibility for things even when not at fault, apologizing, reassuring her I loved her and had her back and pleasantries like please and thank you etc… went a long way. It’s hard to be criticized when we know we’re doing as much as we can to make our LO safe and comfortable. It took me some time to adjust to our new reality while caring for my mom. I wanted to walk away a lot. I had to adjust a lot throughout our journey since she couldn’t

This a difficult path, I’m sorry you’re on it. Glad you found us here! There are so many wise and supportive folks here… I couldn’t survive without them. Keep coming back. Thanks for sharing.

missylane72

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/67197/tempers-and-outrage

I totally understand. My mom has poured drink on me, throw things , call me bad name and constantly make a mess plus she talks from the time she gets up until we go to bed at night. I cry a lot and at times I want to just leave. The advice I got was when you feel this way, take a time out. Go walking, shopping or go to your room and lock the door. It’s not always easy to do but you need a break