Heightened Agitation and aggression

Questonian

Hi Everyone, I’m 57, diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimers in August this year.

I find that I’m increasingly agitated by noise. Constant repetitious noises.

My aggression seems to be getting stronger and harder to control.

Im really annoy with myself how quickly I react and fly off, I always used to stop, think then respond. I feel like I’m losing my filter. I can’t seem to shut off and it’s like rambling.

My wife has been in hospital for the last few days, she has caught Pneumonia and having heart lining issues. There have been a lot of stress factors, like her mum going into a nursing home and dealing with another house, people/family…me.

She’s my rock and also keeps me on track, so I have been kind of have two wheels out of four on that track. I thought I wasn’t too bad but without her “push” I falter.

i know my issues haven’t helped as she may feel like she’s walking on eggshells with me at times.

I am learning to “listen” when she says that I need to go for a walk.

Will have to talk to my specialist about any meds to help with this aggression and agitation before I’m thrown into a home or a cell.

Hope this reads ok, sleep has been pretty bad and it’s lack there of is causing more problems.

P.S We are also raising two granddaughters and it was our first New Years apart in 21 years.

darcytg

Questonian,

I am grateful you posted your experience.

My heart aches for all of us on this journey.

It sounds scary and annoying about the noise and your quick responses.

Hope your wife heals quickly and you find yourself on the tracks.

Your post read well.

I hope you and your wife celebrate the new year in a new way when she's well.

Questonian

Thank you Darcy for writing back I really appreciate it.

Was feeling pretty isolated and lost with her away, she really holds me together and can seem to redirect me.

Good news, they found she had a few blood clots, thank god a Dr called her back in, she could have died.

My wife wants a “Do Over” on the party when she’s able lol

darcytg

Questonian,

Hoping you've got happy plans for the so over.

Speedy get well to your wife.

You hang in there and breathe.

Iris L.

Questioning, I hope your wife will continue to heal. But it will take some time. Are you able to visit her?

Be aware of your medications side effects, some meds cause agitation and restlessness.

Iris

Janutt

Questonian,

exciting news to hear about your wife, but also very scary to think that she has blood clots. I know it’s quite painful. I had one. Hopefully you can visit her soon if she isn’t home yet.

hopefully it’s nothing serious about your agitation or sleepiness.

raising grandchildren can be hard but rewarding. My husband and I watch our grandchildren during the week and it can be very tiring at times. They’re little ones.

Kathy308pet

wow, You are dealing with a lot. I too have noticed loud, repetitive noise makes me anxious. I was having an MRI today and they play music, if you want them to while the machine is banging away. I couldn’t do anything about the machine banging away, but I got them to turn the music off. It was better without it.

Iris L.

PWDs do better in quiet environments.

PWDs need to avoid external distractions because they need to focus their attention.

Iris

Janutt

I have noticed that too with loud noises going on at the same time. I have yelled back sometimes and not meaning to. I just feel bad but I have explained that the noise and commotion makes me more confused. I now understand it’s not us but the disease

klucey

Hi questonian:

love your user name! You are going through a lot! I’m sure some of your anger/irritabilty is due to that heavy life stress. It also sounds like reactions to loud noise is a symptom, so trying to be in a calm quiet environment may help. You might also talk to the dr about what’s going on. There may be some medication that could help with that. Along with the steps you are already taking including reaching out here. Be kind to yourself.

kate

Siggaligga

I have found that noise seems to drain me of all energy.
I,ve been using Loop earplugs for a year now and it seems to help filter out the most annoying noises. The best part is that it is easy to use them all day and still be able to have a conversation and hear what one needs.

klucey

I agree with speaking with your dr about medications to reduce your irritability but make sure she is versed in treating Alzheimer’s. If f not I would find such a specialist, all the other suggestions sound spot on. Go easy on yourself - you’re doing the best you can