I am lost at what to do now.

scetera

My father has been diagnosed with dementia. My sister and I also believe my mom has dementia too. Everyday she forgets what she wants to say. And she doesn't remember to take her medications. I went to a few doctor appointments with my mom but now she has told us she doesn't want my sister or I getting involved with anything medical for her. She is my dad's caregiver but she doesn't care well for him. Has anyone experienced anything like this and can give me some advice? I am at a loss as what I can do to help. I have a family and work a full time job so it is hard to always go over there. Any suggestions for help is appreciated.

M1

welcome to the forum. Do you hold power of attorney for both of your parents? Likely you or your sister need to have it, and you may need to make a move to keep both of them safe. A good certified elder law attorney (CELA) may be able to persuade her to sign, and you might use the argument that you are updating your papers too. However, if she won't consent, you may have to pursue guardianship, which is a more involved and costly process. It is not unusual to have to force a move against their will, unfortunately. Safety has to drive the decision-making.