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Despondent and leaving...venting

Hello Fabulous People,

My ahort walk with my LO has become shorter yet, as I succumbed to pneumonia and will head home to recuperate.

My LO's POA is stepping into the space I filled and navigating moving my LO, as well.

I advocate as best I can.

I love as best I can.

I try to bite my tongue when I hear things said that my observations negate. I can not make people see and observe. I can not explain that the measure needs to meet my LO's worst days, not her best.

I am shattered and heartbroken and hoping for true best practice professionals to show up for my LO on her journey.

You are all a gift in my life. Thanks for seeing and hearing and getting it.

I continue to learn, grow and love.

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  • fmb
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    @darcytg You did your very best, and that is all anyone (including yourself) can ask of you. To everything there is a season, and now is the time to step aside from active caregiving for your LO and focus on restoring your own health. I pray that your LO receives the care that they need and that you receive healing, both physical and mental, as you continue your journeys.

  • darcytg
    darcytg Member Posts: 94
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    Thank you fmb.

  • Jgirl57
    Jgirl57 Member Posts: 511
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    You do need to recouperate . Be proud of all you have done .❤️

  • JeriLynn66
    JeriLynn66 Member Posts: 884
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    Be well @darcytg .

  • SusanB-dil
    SusanB-dil Member Posts: 1,204
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    Agreeing with others - It takes a toll others wouldn't understand. We do... !

    Get well soon

  • mommyandme (m&m)
    mommyandme (m&m) Member Posts: 1,468
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    I’m glad you will be taking needed time for yourself, yet so difficult to do. I hope your physical healing is swift. Thanks for sharing.

  • Emily 123
    Emily 123 Member Posts: 831
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    People don't realize what it takes or what the challenges are until they've tried to caregive. They will recall what you told them in a while...Hope you feel better soon.

  • DCCEPEK
    DCCEPEK Member Posts: 95
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    Sending prayers and hugs

  • ButterflyWings
    ButterflyWings Member Posts: 1,755
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    Feel better soon!

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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