My DW's caregiver

Hohenzollern

My DW is declining and it is a hard thing to watch. We both live in an Assisted Living facility and the staff seems to be content to let me tend to each and every one of my DW's needs and requests, etc. I have Parkinson's disease and I feel as though my own needs are not getting met. It doesn't feel like anyone is assisting ME. DW's doctor says I am the only reason she has not already been moved to Memory Care. My anxiety level is off the charts... way off.

M1

welcome to the forum. That sounds like a very, very valid concern. Do you have other family members who can advocate for you? Regardless, it sounds like it might be a good idea for you to have a sit-down meeting with the director of the facility and the head of nursing. Absolutely, your needs should not be ignored in favor of your wife's, nor should you be expected to be her caregiver.

Do you have the financial wherewithal to support her move to MC if you stay in AL? I know this is frequently a concern.

You have found a very supportive community here. Please keep us posted, and glad you found us.

Hohenzollern

Thanks for your comments. I will be meeting with the administrator this afternoon. In answer to your question: we have the means for her Memory Care, but I will not be following her there of course.