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Calling my DH at MCF - heartbreaking

SDianeL
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To recap: I had to immediately place my DH in MCF Dec 5th because of my devastating diagnosis of a rare aggressive form of breast cancer that I needed immediate aggressive treatment for. I have only been able to visit him once on Christmas Day due to my low immune system from chemo. I call him and we can't carry on a conversation. He cries. I cry. He asks what time I'm coming to get him. He's being well cared for but it's so heartbreaking for me not to be able to have a conversation with him or go visit. Appreciate the thoughts and prayers.

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  • BethL
    BethL Member Posts: 838
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    I have been praying for you, Diane, and will continue to do so.

  • M1
    M1 Member Posts: 6,715
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    Glad to hear from you. If it helps at all, he probably doesn't have the sense of time that you do, so hopefully he is spared feeling so bereft. It's a small mercy.

  • Jeanne C.
    Jeanne C. Member Posts: 805
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    You're both in my thoughts.

  • Joe C.
    Joe C. Member Posts: 944
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    I will keep you and your husband in my prayers.

  • Dio
    Dio Member Posts: 682
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    Your DH is well cared for. Please focus on getting well yourself. Sending you good thoughts and well wishes!

  • LaneyG
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    I can only imagine what you must be going through. You are both in my thoughts. Remind yourself he is in good hands and focus on getting yourself well.

  • BPS
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    When my mom was in MC time wasn't the same as it is for us and I think right now the most important thing you can do is to take care of yourself. There is a treatment for your condition that needs to be done and there is no treatment for his condition. Sounds like he is getting good care and you need good car too.

  • ButterflyWings
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    (((SDianeL)))

  • Joydean
    Joydean Member Posts: 1,497
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    Sending prayers and hugs to you! As others have mentioned your dh is being cared for so you need to focus on yourself now. You have to focus on getting yourself well so you can see your dh! God bless you and your dh!!

  • hiya
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    I’m so glad you posted, Diane, as I’ve been thinking about you and your husband. You have been through so much, I cannot imagine. As others have said, your husband is being well cared for. It’s time to focus on you and getting you back healed and strong. Sending a big hug and prayers.

  • Jgirl57
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    Thank you for posting! I hope your treatment is going well . I have been thinking about you and your DH. HUGS!

  • mrahope
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    So, so sorry for all you're going through. Keeping my hopes high that you will improve enough so you can be face-to-face. For our LOs who live in the moment, they may not recall how long it's been since you've spoken or visited. Care for yourself and keep us posted.

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 4,359
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    @SDianeL

    I am so sorry. There is nothing fair or easy about the situation you are in.

    Perhaps when the weather warms, he'll be more settled in the MCF and you'll be able to visit outside.

    HB

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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