Our Journey is Over

Cinsababe

My husband passed 1/5/2024. I would like to remember him as the handsome, charming man I met 5 years ago and maybe that will come with time. This horrible disease takes everything. Surprisingly it wasn't ALZ but Stage 4 metastatic lung cancer, very aggressive small cell. We had no idea he had it. The doctors said the Alzheimers most likely kept him from recognizing the symptoms as they came on...he never complained at all. His arm swelled Christmas day so we went to the ER. It only took about an hour to find that his lungs were filled with tumors and his heart and aorta were surrounded. There were masses on his spine and in his brain as well. There was nothing they could do and he died peacefully in his sleep 8 days later.

Through these last months he had become more immobile and I did hire in home care to help. He, always the engineer, said he just needed to walk and exercise more, which he did. He continued to be angry and belligerent and aggressive, but much weaker so easier to manage. He had many doctor appointments and none ever suspected. I am grateful and feel blessed that he did not have to suffer years more of this disease. He had become incontinent and was struggling to accept help, making continual huge messes as he tried to handle things himself. I miss him, I miss us, I long for the life and dreams we were supposed to have, and at the same time I am at peace and glad this is over. Thanks for all your support thru these years.

Mint

Cinsababe so very sorry for your loss

darcytg

Cinsababe,

Thanks for sharing your experience and feelings.

Hoping much lightness fills your world and heart in the time to come.

Blessings come in many ways, sometimes in ways we'd never considered as possible blessings.

Hoping continued peace and happy memories find you always.

Cecil Jones

Cindy,

I truly am sorry for your loss. I hope you're able to find some relief and peace.

M1

Glad to hear from you but so sorry for your loss. He was fortunate to have you to see him through. Glad he didn't linger and I hope you can find some peace now.

ghphotog

I'm sorry for your loss.

Jo C.

i remember you well from earlier Posts and extend my sympathy on the loss of your husband. Your deep caring and excellent care brought much more quality to his life during some difficult times; I wish you well.

J.

JeriLynn66

My deepest condolences for your loss.

Pat6177

Cinsababe, I’ve wondered how you were doing. My condolences to you. You’ve been a great caregiver in challenging circumstances. Thank you for sharing the news with us. Be kind to yourself during this transition to Stage 8.

White Crane

I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. May you find peace and comfort in the coming days.

Quilting brings calm

I’m sorry for the loss of your husband. I know your road was especially difficult since the ALZ 1) came on soon after you’d started your relationship and 2) brought behavioral challenges.

I lost a cousin to lung cancer that was only detected a month before he passed and had spread just like your spouse’s. He didn’t have dementia. Sometimes things just don’t have recognizable symptoms.

Dio

Condolences all around. Please start taking care of yourself, and may the loving memories soothe your grief in the days ahead.

LJCHR

Heartfelt condolences to you - may you find strength to carry you thru Stage 8. So sorry....

Joe C.

My sincere condolences on the loss of your husband. Ay you find some peace in the days ahead.

SSHarkey

I am so sorry for your loss! No matter how long you’ve been together, it’s so difficult!

ImMaggieMae

I am so sorry for your loss.

​fesk

I am very sorry for your loss.

Beachfan

I am sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to find peace in the days and months to come. Your journey was exceptionally tragic; rest now and heal. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

annahowie

I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for peace and comfort for you during this time

gampiano

i share in your sadness, and hope for good things going forward.

Joydean

I add my condolences to all the others. Prayers for you during the coming days and months. May the sweet memories guide you through.

AlzWife2023

Sending my condolences. Remember the man you loved in his best days. Time heals all wounds. It really does. Look at photos from when he was well & that will bring back all the good memories. May peace be with you. You took care of him. That is special. That is love. You should be proud.

harshedbuzz

I am sorry for the loss of your dear husband. I wish you peace and strength as you go forward.

HB

ButterflyWings

Sending you virtual hugs and well wishes for a future that uplifts the positive memories and allows the tough ones to fade in time. I am glad he (you both) received an exit strategy from all this though I am so sorry for your loss. Your post is so beautiful.

mrahope

So sorry to hear of the loss of your dear husband. So hard even when it happens that he didn't have to fight Alz anymore. Hoping that those good memories emerge again as time passes. My condolences.

Jgirl57

I am glad you are feeling at peace now from the terrible journey. So sorry your DH had a rough time. Hugs to you and your family.

Jeff86

Deepest condolences to you Cinsababe. Yours was an especially challenging journey. But he is no longer suffering, and I hope you heal and find peace in the weeks and months ahead.

midge333

I am sorry for your loss. He was blessed to have you!

Mimi50

So very sorry for your loss. Sending prayers and hugs to you during this very difficult time.