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Carrying her photography around

MrToad
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In Better Days, DW was an accomplished photographer. One of the best photos my wife took many years ago was of the Arlington Memorial Bridge across the Potomac. It connects two very different places: Washington, with its Lincoln Memorial, and Virginia, with Robert E. Lee’s Arlington House.

I now consider that photo as a metaphor of the connection between two other places: the “real” world I live in, and the very different dementia world my wife lives in. Seeking to honor that connection, I spent about a year finding just the right artist and I now carry that picture with me 24/7-----tattooed on my forearm, as shown attached.

The first time DW saw it ---my first ink, by the way—she reached out and touched it with her fingertip. Then she slowly turned to me, and smiled. These days, every smile I get from her is a treasure.

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  • Joe C.
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    Beautiful photo and beautiful tribute!

  • Caro_Lynne
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    Love this Mr. Toad xo

  • Joydean
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    What a treasure Mr Toad! It’s beautiful ! Thank you for sharing it.

  • trottingalong
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    Now that’s very special. Thank you for sharing both.

  • wose
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    What an absolutely beautiful gesture and enduring memory for both of you💙

  • CindyBum
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    Amazing!

  • JeriLynn66
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    How loving

  • SSHarkey
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    What a beautiful tat! You had an excellent artist do that! And how precious a memory that must be for you!

  • GiGi1963
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    Thanks for sharing. Your wife took a beautiful picture and your tattoo is perfect.

  • Ed1937
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    I have seen some of her work in the calendar. And she certainly had a good eye. I'm glad you had the tattoo made because it seems as though it really meant something to her. You are a hero in more ways than one. She is so lucky to have you.

  • ThisLife
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    Beautiful tattoo. Such a sweet way to honor her.

  • ImMaggieMae
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    What a beautiful tribute to your dear wife. Your tattoo is amazing.

  • LilySue
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    That's truly amazing!

  • jfkoc
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    The photo is beautiful as is the tattoo but it must have been verry painful.

    So gald to have you back posting.

  • MrToad
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    jfkoc--

    I wouldn't say the three hours with the artist were painful, but they did leave a lasting impression on me!

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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