65th Anniversary coming up—I need suggestions!

Peonie60

Hello everyone, my parents’ 65th anniversary is coming up in a few months. My dad is in independent living and very social. He would love to see friends to celebrate. My mom is deep into dementia and lives in the same complex in memory care. She can walk, talk and eat well but her memory is gone. She doesn’t know who I am, where she is, etc. Being with a small group of family for a couple of hours wears her out. I would like to celebrate their anniversary but not sure how to make it work for both of them. It seems wrong to have a gathering just for dad. I also want what’s best for mom but dad will want her there. Any ideas? TIA

M1

Tough one. I personally would let it go, but I'm pretty extreme in that regard. Does your mom even recognize your dad? If she does, I'd ask about having a quiet special dinner for the two of them in the MC area. You could even have it catered, and have their wedding pictures there for them to look at. If she doesn't recognize him, i wouldn't even do that, sadly.