Selling automobile

alzjgg

I am a caregiver for my BIL with memory loss. We have a caregiver M-Sat from 8-5 who takes excellent care of him. He stays alone on Sundays. So far without incident. We are coming up on a year with this arrangement. Anyway, I need to sell his auto. His PCP has told him he can’t drive because of his stroke and health conditions. He hasn’t driven in 4 years. I have the keys to his car at my house. He thinks he drives often. Last week on his doctors advice we took his car and told him it was going for an oil change. He can’t remember what day it is but he remembered to call me today and ask when his car was coming back. We have told him that he can’t drive and that he doesn’t drive and that we need to sell his car. Any advice? I’m not bringing the car back!!!!

Emily 123

Hi there,

You don't have to tell him he can't drive or that you need to sell his car. It's ok to tell him it's in the shop waiting for a backordered part. He will call you each time he sees that the car isn't there, but you can just tell a fiblet that keeps him happy.

harshedbuzz

You need to create a fiblet to make this easier for him to live with. You were on a roll when you said it was getting an oil change. Perhaps the garage discovered it's been recalled and is waiting for a part to make the necessary safety changes. Rinse and repeat. Generally, out-of-sight become out-of-mind at some point.

HB

GothicGremlin

When we sold my sister's car, we just told her that we had moved it to storage - to keep it safe from the elements.

In your case, the car is already out for an oil change. If he asks again, I'd just add something like, "oh wow, when they changed the oil they found some other problems with the car, so it's still being fixed." Forever.

I wouldn't tell him that he can't drive and you're going to sell the car. It'll be frustrating for him to hear that, so if you can avoid that path, everyone will be happier.