We need guidance

Cdoyle0913

My Grandma is probably in mid/ early stages of stage 6 VD. She has been in a nursing home since July. After putting it off for years we decided to put her in a facility as 24/7 care was not available any longer and she needed that. The nursing home she is currently at has been a nightmare. I can't even begin to write it all down the things she has gone through. We were in contact with omnbudsman for a moment with them promising that would help us and get to the bottom of this, then they completely ghosted us. We were given notice last month from the current nursing home that we needed to find a new facility as they were changing their title and were no longer offering "skilled nursing". We found a new place 2 weeks ago everything was good to go, only to talk to someone today saying they decided to deny her. This was after they did an assesment last week, with all of her paperwork, insurance, and the nurse approved it all. She has to be in a new facility by Saturday. This has been the craziest uphill battle. We seem to be some rare bizarre case no one understands. My grandma has been an upstanding citizen her whole entire life. Helped everyone she came in contact with, just the sweetest human you could meet, with the worlds best personality. Is there anything we can do to fight to get her into the facility or a facility? Has anyone ever gone through this?

You do not understand how broken this system is until you are fully living it. It is sickening how terrible our elderly are treated.

SusanB-dil

Oh, wow, that is nuts! and by Saturday? Did they say why she was denied? The only thing I could suggest is just start looking at other places. Don't know that you will be able to find one in just a few days, but maybe one has an opening? Even if not a first-choice, it could be temporary.

JDancer

I know hospitals can't discharge patients unless there's a safe discharge plan, not sure what the rules are for nursing homes. I wouldn't pick her up until I had somewhere to take her.

Cdoyle0913

Technically the nursing home she is currently in can not "kick her out" unless she has a safe place to go. With the ball rolling on the new nursing home the old nursing home was ready for "discharge". The new nursing home approved her last week so we had the go ahead...now we find out yesterday she is being denied. The gave the most idiotic "excuses" for the denial, one being that the nursing home she is at has "spotty" notes in their report. I'm not sure how it will all go to be honest. This is the craziest situation we have ever dealt with. We have been searching for a new nursing home since October and the new one that denied her was one of 2 that called us back. The other nursing home has an F rating with a TON of allegations and one person from there is serving jail time for abuse that occured at this facility. We have her on a waiting list for a place we found in November but of course still waiting on that one with no time frame. We have contacted everyone trying to get help, and no one willing to help. I was hoping someone might have experience in this situation.

M1

I don't know whether it would help, but you can always call your congressional representative. Nursing home abuse is something that stays fairly high on their radar I think. Or they might at least have ideas about who else you can call. The Alheimer's hotline is also a good resource-1-800-272-3900