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It seems she feels free!

ghphotog
ghphotog Member Posts: 673
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My DW has been in MC now for several days. She's happy, she's kind to everyone, almost as if she can just be herself now. Her sister went to visit her yesterday and she was jovial, they danced. Maybe she somehow knows that everyone there is like her so she feels normal, she feels safe both physically and mentally. She's in her world now, with her people.

I'm just grateful is all I can say.

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  • DCCEPEK
    DCCEPEK Member Posts: 94
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    So happy for you. It has to be refreshing thought. I pray she stays happy for you and your sanity.

  • SusanB-dil
    SusanB-dil Member Posts: 1,129
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    That is great news! It would be great if all our LO could adjust so well.

    My mom also did adjust well and is content where she is. MIL - will probably not...

    and I like to see good news once in a while! thanks for posting.

  • GothicGremlin
    GothicGremlin Member Posts: 853
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    I'm so glad to hear this @ghphotog . I had a similar experience with my sister. At first she was kicking and screaming, not wanting to go, but once she saw that memory care wasn't the hellscape she envisioned it to be, she calmed down. Not long after that she told me she should have moved there sooner (or words to that effect). And then, after that, she commented that she liked memory care and that she'd lived there for years! She'd been there less than a year at that point. 🙂

    I think for some people they're so stressed out trying to live in a place that's too complicated for them (Peggy would get lost inside the house), that memory care can be a relief. Like you said, they can be themselves in a manageable environment.

  • Iris L.
    Iris L. Member Posts: 4,370
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    This is the same thing our emeritus member alz+ said, that PWDs need a manageable environment.

  • Phoenix1966
    Phoenix1966 Member Posts: 201
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    My heart feels lighter after you sharing this. I am so happy to hear that she seems to be content in her new location, freeing you to be her spouse again.

  • Jgirl57
    Jgirl57 Member Posts: 483
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    That is truly wonderful to hear!!!

  • mommyandme (m&m)
    mommyandme (m&m) Member Posts: 1,468
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    This wonderful news, thanks for sharing!

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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