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Dogsaremylife
Dogsaremylife Member Posts: 46
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Last night at 11:50PM my husband passed into the hands of God. He had been completely unresponsive to the nurses and to me all day. I talked to him all day about our lives together, about how I had loved him every day for 38 years and had been IN LOVE with him every day for 38 years, even through our darkest times. We had always been 100% loyal to each other and had the good fortune of working side by side for decades. I stroked his head, kissed him, massaged his shoulders, held his hand. I told him that his beloved father was there for him, and I asked him to please come and get me as soon as he could. I asked his forgiveness if I had ever somehow hurt him. I learned what the death process looks like. God made it gentle for him. I was overcome with the presence of God, I felt Him everywhere in the room with us. I took my husband's hand as I told him for the last time that I loved him. There was a quick jerk of a squeeze from him. Thank you all for helping me deal with all that lead up to this, it made it possible for me to go on. My heart is with every one of you in this journey.

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  • Mint
    Mint Member Posts: 2,752
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    Isn't it wonderful to feel God’s presence and so comforting. So sorry for your loss of your DH.

  • Jeanne C.
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    My condolences. I'm glad he's at peace. Strength and comfort to you and your family.

  • Jeannielou
    Jeannielou Member Posts: 28
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    OK so I'm Crying like a baby. What a beautiful message. May GOD grant you His perfect peace as you embark on this new part of your journey.

  • JeriLynn66
    JeriLynn66 Member Posts: 835
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    Prayers for peace and rest in the knowledge that your dear husband is free. Your love is evident in your heartfelt words.

  • Iris L.
    Iris L. Member Posts: 4,420
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    Please accept my condolences in the passing of your dear husband.

    Iris

  • ThisLife
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    Sending sympathy on the loss of your beloved husband. Wishing you peace and comfort.

  • trottingalong
    trottingalong Member Posts: 424
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    I’m glad you both found peace.

  • Brokenhearted in Illinois
    Brokenhearted in Illinois Member Posts: 70
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    simply beautiful. There are no words.

    I will pray for you both this evening ,

  • LJCHR
    LJCHR Member Posts: 197
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    So sorry for your loss, but what a beautiful message. And, how wonderful to feel God’s presence offering you and your husband peace. Prayers for you - your faith will sustain you.

  • Jazzma
    Jazzma Member Posts: 112
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    Sending comfort in your sorrow, and wishing you peace. You did so well. Your husband knows that now.

  • Jgirl57
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    Peace to you and your family. A cherished memory for you, thank you for sharing.

  • psg712
    psg712 Member Posts: 384
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    Heartbreaking and beautiful. Thank you for sharing. May God sustain you with ongoing peace.

  • midge333
    midge333 Member Posts: 320
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    I am sorry for your loss.

  • SSHarkey
    SSHarkey Member Posts: 298
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    God is so sweet to allow you this time together at the end of this part of his life. May His comfort be with you through these next days of transition.

  • ImMaggieMae
    ImMaggieMae Member Posts: 1,031
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    I am so sorry. It’s good you had those last peaceful hours with him and could tell him all the things you wanted to say. Tears and hugs to you.

  • White Crane
    White Crane Member Posts: 884
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    I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. I’m glad you had those last hours together and felt God‘s presence. God keep you in his care. praying for your peace and comfort.

  • Joe C.
    Joe C. Member Posts: 964
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    My sincere condolences on the loss of your husband. May you find some peace in the days ahead.

  • Rocky2
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    My condolences on the loss of your DH. How comforting to know that God is very present, especially in our times of trouble. May you continue to find God's comfort, peace and healing in the days to come.

    Tom

  • mrahope
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    My condolences on the loss of your DH. I am so glad that you found comfort in your spirituality during his time of passing. May you find some peace in the days ahead.

  • Lorita
    Lorita Member Posts: 4,455
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences.

  • ButterflyWings
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    @Dogsaremylife What a beautiful testimony. You did it! Provided him safe passage and you entered Stage 8 together, both free from the ravages of this disease. We all should be so blessed at this inevitable stage for all humans, though it is so hard so say farewell for now. As you know, you had and have, an ever present comforter. How awesome, mighty, and amazing. From my heart to yours. Wishing you peace and healing in time.

  • GiGi1963
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    I too have tears reading your final hours spent with your husband. Sending my sincere condolences and hope time will bring happy memories of your lives together.

  • Ed1937
    Ed1937 Member Posts: 5,090
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    I don't think there is another word but "beautiful". I'm sorry for your loss, but rest assured he knew you were there.

  • WIGO23
    WIGO23 Member Posts: 117
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    May your journey now begin on the healing side. He will always be with you held safely in your memories.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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