Hi! Newbie Here

AndiT_66

My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2019 but we didn’t move him until just this last summer; it took four years for my mom to get on board. Today when we went and saw them my dad didn’t know me and that was so hard. How do you deal with it? What’s worse is he looked so sad and I know things change day to day for them but it was so hard.

SusanB-dil

Hi AndIT - welcome to 'here', but sorry for the reason.

'this' is all so hard! The first time mom called me by her sister's name, it really threw me for a loop. Not sure you ever really get used to it. We just deal with it. MIL no longer knows me, but just figures I'm around enough that I must fit in the picture somehow. She only knows that I am not 'her'... which was DH first wife, who passed away 2/2000. It is sad.

Mom and I were never close, but with family resemblance, as her younger sister, she's actually nicer. Go figure. And she does know my daughter, who was closer to her anyway, and is a nurse, as mom was.

psg712

You are right. Things do change from day to day. I try to enjoy the better days and allow myself to grieve the sad parts on the tougher days. And trust that God is looking out for her in the whole process, especially when I can't be there.

Hugs. It is a sad, sad disease. Try to remember and cherish the good times.