Curious?

JC5

Interesting to see the various venues this disease takes! ! Finding lately DH is now using my towel when he actually takes a shower. Choosing the soup I like to have even tho he has never liked it in the past, wanting to sit where I usually sit either at the table or watching TV? What??? Explain!

terei

Your H’s brain is being compromised in various areas that are affecting his behaviors + physical health.

Quilting brings calm

He is using you and your behaviors and decisions as a guide to help him figure out what to do. He can no longer make those decisions, but can see what you’ve decided

Stan2

My DW has recently decided she doesn't like beef or chicken. So far fish is OK. She mostly has just been eating cottage cheese, crackers and fudge cycles.

Denise1847

Oh yes, mine uses my towel, my shampoo etc. They just don't see the differences. Showering becomes confusing and tiring. Eventually, they will forget to shower, change their clothes etc.

DTSbuddy

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DTSbuddy

1. Doesn't remember which towel he used before, or which soup he used to like. 2. Wants to please me, so chooses what I seem to prefer. 3. Following my example, my lead, because he identifies with me. 4. Loss of executive function leaves him as a follower rather than a leader. ...Whatever it is, it's way better than oppositional behavior.

harshedbuzz

@JC5

It could be he's forgotten about the unwritten "rules" of the household and is following your prompts.

Via a vis food choice, his tastes might have changed. As dad's dementia progressed her ate an entirely different diet. The first thing I noticed was craving sweets. When I was a kid, dad would take us to an ice cream parlor after doing payroll at his shop-- dad would have a BLT and a coffee while the rest of us had sundaes DWD (dad w/dementia) was putting away a gallon a week plus cookies. Then he time-traveled back to his pre-gall bladder (pre-1980) surgery diet and ended up in pain from stones again. In the later stages, he started enjoying highly seasoned and even spicy fare I brought over to spare mom cooking.

Showering is a complex ADL. It sounds like he needs to be set up at the very least and would probably benefit from some guidance while showering.

Confabulation might be afoot as well. This is when a person recalls the gist of something but is hazy on the details. He might remember somebody likes the whatever-flavor soup and assume it's him. Dad had crazy conflated memories of all kinds of things big and small. He once, in the same conversation, conflated a flood destroying his house (that was me) and total knee replacement surgery (mom).

HB