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terei

I suppose you could block his number on your mother’s phone. Have you tried to enlist the partner in shielding your mother from contact? Do you have DPOA? With that, you may be able to get a restraining order against the brother if he is harming her financially or physically. A lawyer might be able to help you

M1

Welcome to the forum. I too am curious as to why your parent calls you long distance for banking concerns rather than asking their long-term partner? That strikes me as a bit of a red flag. perhaps the partner is not up to dementia caregiving?

I would agree that the entire situation warrants discussion with a certified elder law attorney about who should have power of attorney for your parent both for healthcare and finances. I would worry that your troubled sibling might angle to financially exploit your parent and/or the partner, and you may need to take over all finances to prevent this.

Another thing that comes to mind is to go for an extended visit to really get a handle on how things stand.